Questioning Belonging. Where Do I Go From Here?

Episode Summary

Have you ever felt like you don’t belong where you are? Where might be that place? How do you find it?

Episode Notes

Hello! to you in Duluth, Minnesota. Coming to you from Whidbey Island, Washington this is 60 Seconds, your daily dose of hope, imagination, wisdom, stories, practical tips, and general riffing on this and that.

3 ½ years on Whidbey Island and I’m still at odds with belonging.

Did I choose too soon? No. There were exigent circumstances. Did I choose too foolishly? No. I’m practical with the heart of an Aquarian Dreamer. Then what?

I don’t feel my identity being sculpted here. Somehow I’m still missing a sense of belonging, belonging to a place I can inhabit because I am so linked to it that to leave would be my undoing.

Now what? Well, in the time-honored fashion of others in a quandary turn to poetry and reassess. Perhaps I must, in the words of the poet David Whyte: “… begin to love all the things it’s taken me so long to love.” and begin to belong that way.

Click here to hear David Whyte recite The House of Belonging.

“I awoke
this morning
in the gold light
turning this way
and that

thinking for
a moment
it was one
like any other.

the veil had gone
from my
darkened heart
I thought

it must have been the quiet
that filled my room,

it must have been
the first
easy rhythm
with which I breathed
myself to sleep,

it must have been
the prayer I said
speaking to the otherness
of the night.

I thought
this is the good day
you could
meet your love,

this is the black day
someone close
to you could die.

This is the day
you realise
how easily the thread
is broken
between this world
and the next

and I found myself
sitting up
in the quiet pathway
of light,

the tawny
close grained cedar
burning round
me like fire
and all the angels of this housely
heaven ascending
through the first
roof of light
the sun has made.

This is the bright home
in which I live,
this is where
I ask
my friends
to come,
this is where I want
to love all the things
it has taken me so long
to learn to love.

This is the temple
of my adult aloneness
and I belong
to that aloneness
as I belong to my life.

There is no house
like the house of belonging.”

[by David Whyte]

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Diane F. Wyzga
Diane F. Wyzga
Remember the first time you rode a bike and took your hands off the handlebars? And then because it felt fun and daring you did it again - and again - riding down a hill with the wind in your face, arms up over your head screaming, “Look, ma! No hands!” You showed up. You did it. The arc of my professional career stretches from serving as a US Navy officer and nurse, corporate businesswoman, lawyer, platform storyteller, and professor before shifting into a solopreneur as a litigation consultant, wordsmith-er/editor, noted podcaster, and story consultant who was lucky enough to scuba dive the Continental Shelf, become a pilot, hike the Rocky Mountains with Outward Bound, kayak off the coast of Mexico, parachute out of a perfectly good plane, walk the Camino de Santiago de Compostela, and so much more. Over my lifetime I've been letting go of the handlebars but - just as often - having my fingers pried off when I’ve been most afraid. At some of the darkest moments in my life where the true way was wholly lost to me, a person or opportunity beckoned and I said "Yes!" That’s the place where the story changed. This is my life purpose: Helping women identify, sort out and transform unclear messages into confident, connection-making stories, and those stories into powerful sequels. How? 30 years of story work in courtrooms, boardrooms, universities, retreat settings and more has taught me that story principles are key to conscious connection. Together we distill hazy ideas into easily understood metaphors and direct emotional language using words with power, passion, and precision so your message, your story rings true and achieves desired outcomes. My media company has three interlocking components: Quarter Moon Story Arts: "Shaping stories into sequels." Stories From Women Who Walk (podcast): "Like magic, the sorcery of stories is this: they help each of us to be seen and heard, to understand and be understood." My Life As Compost (blog): "What matters in our life is not what happens to us but how we respond, transform the difficulty into advantage, and tell *that* story."

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  1. Hey, Charlotte ~
    Indeed! It’s been 3 decades of following Whyte’s work. Listening, re-listening, re-assessing, considering anew, and so on. The House of Belonging has always been one of my favs. And, because Whyte wrote it his words tell me he has been a seeker as well.
    Shadow work is probably something else that’s been going on as I hold up the roof in a new community – COVID, kitty with kidney disease. What better time, eh? I tell you true I could not have made it this far but for friends like you & this BC community. I feel heard & seen here; the least I can do is take the time to let others know I see and hear them. My writing is not nearly as prolific as yours – so I also relish what I get to read just because it’s there. Be-longing ~ Diane

  2. I hope David Whyte helped, Diane.

    All the things that it has taken me so long to learn to love. That sounds like a good piece of shadow work being done. All the friends make me think of Laura Staley naming her moods – an eclectic bunch of friends, indeed.

    But belonging so much that leaving would be your undoing seems a case for unhealthy codependency – at least in this life.

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