Oxytocin Makes a Grown Man Cry

We just got back from a relaxing vacation in Mexico last Wednesday. Ok, there was a day or two where it felt a bit tenuous.

While there was some talk of COVID19 around the pool, the only visible sign that something dramatic was happening in the world was the steady decline in the resort guest population each day.

The magnitude of the situation came crashing in on me on the return trip home after the cabin door to the plane closes and the flight attendant makes an announcement. She says, “We’re sorry there won’t be any service on the flight but we have water and a snack in the seat pouch. While this won’t be the level of service you would expect from our airline, we are available if you use your call button. Welcome aboard as we repatriate as many of our customers as possible.”

Repatriate? Bam! It hits me like a ton of bricks and it must be a surge of oxytocin as I immediately well-up and can’t control my emotions. This is more than a typical day at work for the crew.

I am very grateful to the staff at AirTransat who got us home safely and to the staff at every airline who are travelling abroad in empty airplanes and returning home with a cabin full of passengers.

It happens again as we clear customs in Halifax. Approximately half of the Border Security Agents are wearing masks and the other half have none. They are prompt, efficient, and caring. As I try to say thank you to the Border Guard who is accepting us home, I can not speak. I suspect it is another rush of oxytocin flooding my body – leaving me a babbling baby.

Over this past week, every single time I’ve told this story and even as I write in this moment – same thing – I get an overwhelming emotional feeling of love, peace, and connectedness brought on by oxytocin.

When you help, you bring on oxytocin in others. And when you’re helped or witness helping, oxytocin is brought on in you.

Cheers to more oxytocin!

Steve Foran
Steve Foranhttps://www.gratitudeatwork.ca/the-level
I began exploring the relationship between gratitude and philanthropic giving while completing my Masters in Business. Since then, I’ve been writing and conducting practice-based gratitude research and teaching the habits of grateful leadership - close to fifteen years now. What has emerged is our science-based program, Gratitude At Work. It's a simple, yet innovative approach to thriving leadership and business growth. I founded Gratitude at Work in 2007 and started hosting conversations in my community which have since grown into work with leaders across Canada and into the United States, shifting cultures, helping leaders and their teams bring more gratitude to work each day. My 2019 book, Surviving to Thriving - The 10 Laws of Grateful Leadership, was named 1 of 8 recommended reads by Greater Good Science Center at the University of California Berkeley and 1 of 5 positive psychology books for a happier 2019 in INC. Also in 2019, I was an inaugural winner of Canada's CEO Trusted Advisor Awards Program. I’m a son, brother, husband, father and newly minted grandfather. My kids poke fun at my gratitude work (air quotes) and in 2017, I was awarded the highest earned designation in professional speaking, CSP. I recently created STATUSGRO to give everyone easy on-line access to the secrets of gratitude and grateful leadership. I’m a lifelong resident of Halifax and doing my part to make my community a better place to live.
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Susan Rooks
Susan Rooks

Cheers indeed, Steve, but more so for a man who admits he can and does cry on occasion! Glad you made it safely back home!

Len Bernat
Len Bernat

Steve – You have become part of a unique family here at BC360 so welcome. May you find respectful engagement and encouragement for your writing. Finally, friendships are created here that become very special and will become folks you can reach out to when oxytocin overwhelms you. 😄

Tom Dietzler
Tom Dietzler

I suspect that you and I would get along quite well, as I get misty fairly easily. Still being on vacation (since March 11), but all of it has been in the US, we may have some re-entry issues ahead of us yet. Thanks for sharing a great piece!

Sherry McGuinn
Sherry McGuinn

Welcome to this great community. You will find yourself “welling up” here quite often. Wonderful story. Glad you made it back safely.

Laura Staley
Laura Staley

Beautiful, Steve. Yes, may the oxytocin continue to help us remain connected in gratitude, compassion, and love..even if it’s through our words on a screen leaping with energy into our eyes, minds, and sinking in our hearts. I’m happy to know you are safe and well. Welcome to BizCatalyst360!!

Lynn Forrester-Pitocco
Lynn Forrester-Pitocco

Steve, welcome to this plateform, hope to see more. A little confused but with humor in that Oxytocin in its definition seems to refer to biochemistry and synthesis during labor. We labor for love no doubt. I hope the onset of Oxcytocin was successful in minimizing the labor pains from your journey.

Joel Elveson
Joel Elveson

Welcome, Steve to the BC36o family.

Kimberly Davis
Kimberly Davis

Oh my goodness, Steve, I was right there with you, when you shared the flight attendant’s announcement! That must have been frightening and overwhelming for every person on that flight. I flew from NY back to Austin, just shortly after the New Rochelle news broke and experienced something similar. Life carries a new perspective. Thank you!

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