Own Your Story

I am neither ashamed nor proud of my actions, they are simply part of my story.

–anonymous  

I heard that on a mental health training course, the other week.   One of the most powerful quotes, I have ever heard.   It resonated deep inside my soul.  

It resonated because I had been judging myself – on my ‘not so finer moments’, the ones where I fear the world would judge me harshly if I told the truth.  

But it actually doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, it is not their acceptance I crave – it’s mine.  The rest of the world does not live in my head, walk by my side every day and choose my decisions – I do.   I just didn’t realise that, until a kind, honest and brave man, stood up in front of a room full of strangers, to tell his story and in the process, gave me this priceless less gift.  

It is not the judgement of others that scares you, but the judgement of yourself – the judgement you think you will get from others.  

Life is a nuance, people will surprise you – often for the better, truth is more powerful than shame and fear and if you accept yourself, you won’t need it from others.  

It’s ok to be you – all of you.  

Nik Davis
Nik Davishttps://nikdavis.com/
NIK DAVIS is a business transformation expert and has spent 20 years in the corporate world. Her comfort zone is order, logic and applying analytical tools to solve complex problems. She is also a keen observer of life, a writer and eccentric. Nik has recently returned to the world of work after taking a career break to spend time with her family. Upon her return, she found that her perspective had changed, as had the world she was returning to. Nik decided to carve out a new place in that world and mould some of it to fit her too. Nik sees life from quirky angles, shaped by experiences and the vast amount of knowledge we now have access to. She likes to write about her experiences and observations. To ‘tell it how it is’ and to find a more authentic way to live, whether in our professional or personal lives. Nik often talks about finding ‘The Third Way’. It’s a philosophy about life, having a personal life as well as a career, making money and being socially generous, being logical and sensitive, living by the rules of a society but not being afraid to challenge them, inspiring others to feel good but not for your own ego, giving rather than taking. Nik wants to make a difference to this world by getting people to see things differently, to try new ways of working but most of all, to re-discover our true selves and therefore reach our true potential. Nik also has two other persona’s: nikdavis which is where Nik writes about her deeply personal experiences of life. Nik runs a facebook group alongside this website to create a safe place for people to discuss the topics that are raised in her blog. Nik’s second persona is Lilly Isabella and this is where she shares her passion of fashion and design.
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Very insightful Nik, and I think we all beat ourselves up far too much instead of giving ourselves credit. We expect too much from ourselves and when we fall short of our standards or goals, we tend to blame ourselves. This is not healthy. Somehow, when we are young, when we are learning the tools to survive in the world, we are never taught how to properly love and value ourselves. This needs to change…

Mark O'Brien

I don’t know how or why, Nik. But the one thing about which I’ve always been absolutely certain is that I’m a writer. It took me a while to get beyond the fear of the judgment of others. Once I did, the writer became the storyteller. And that storyteller, like you, encourages others to tell their stories. The greatest gift we can give each other is faith in ourselves.

Thank you for sharing your story.

Larry Tyler

A very powerful message Nik. Very Strong Ink Indeed!

Jonathan Solomon

Thank you for a lovely message, Nik.

In my mind, you message also equates to self-respect and this is also vitally important.

Please allow me to share a couple of quotes which have influenced me:

“Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners”. Laurence Sterne

“We are all equal in the fact that we are all different. We are all the same in the fact that we will never be the same. We are united by the reality that all colors and all cultures are distinct and individual. We are harmonious in the reality that we are all held to this earth by the same gravity. We don’t share blood, but we share the air that keeps us alive.” C. JoyBell C.

Aldo Delli Paoli

The judgment of others can sometimes weigh like a boulder. Of course, people are always willing to give us their opinion (even if it is often not required) and to give us advice on how to behave. But to what extent can others know what is best for us?
When we choose a road, the one we think is right for us, the opinions of others count for little, if not absolutely nothing. To be oneself it is important to believe in one’s choices and never leave the road taken only to not disappoint the people around us. We must be sure of ourselves, of our abilities and of our talent and abandon all the insecurities that others transmit to us. What matters is being proud of what we are and of the path we are taking (it is the path we have chosen). Only this allows us to live well without having the burden of what others will think of us.

Lynn Forrester-Pitocco

Love this Nik, learn to be still and listen, and you will be surprised

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