I am neither ashamed nor proud of my actions, they are simply part of my story.
I heard that on a mental health training course, the other week. One of the most powerful quotes, I have ever heard. It resonated deep inside my soul.
It resonated because I had been judging myself – on my ‘not so finer moments’, the ones where I fear the world would judge me harshly if I told the truth.
But it actually doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, it is not their acceptance I crave – it’s mine. The rest of the world does not live in my head, walk by my side every day and choose my decisions – I do. I just didn’t realise that, until a kind, honest and brave man, stood up in front of a room full of strangers, to tell his story and in the process, gave me this priceless less gift.
It is not the judgement of others that scares you, but the judgement of yourself – the judgement you think you will get from others.
Life is a nuance, people will surprise you – often for the better, truth is more powerful than shame and fear and if you accept yourself, you won’t need it from others.
It’s ok to be you – all of you.