On Kindness

So I was at the supermarket checkout with my favourite cashier Serena yesterday, who I have a good rapport with. I gave her a copy of my book a few weeks earlier and while I pack my groceries we talk about my book and Love and The Goddess and other things.

Yesterday I was feeling really low. My body is busy doing some serious purging and my skin is sore in places and in particular my eyes. I often feel ugly and less than, when I am not looking/feeling my best. It’s an old story that is almost deleted about childhood eczema and my step mum’s response to my eczema as inconvenient for her and that I was causing extra work and that the fragments of love available were withheld for having eczema.

But Serena helped me massively yesterday in a few words that she shared with me as I left. She mentioned how my eyes looked rather sore and suggested something that might help and as if she knew how I was feeling she added ‘ but you know you are still beautiful just as you are.’

In my tender state, I almost burst into tears as this is my healing mantra of late which is reflected back to me in so many ways from so many beautiful people that I am blessed to have in my life. We shared a few sweet moments of eye contact and I thanked her deeply adding that if she was not behind the checkout I would have been giving her a big hug!

And I just share this little story to remind us of how powerful and important a few kindly spoken words can be to a friend or a ‘stranger’. It is worth remembering too that there really are no strangers. What we say to others is us speaking to ourselves since ‘others’ is just an illusion of the mind.

In these times of change and great opportunity let’s remember to be there for each other. Let’s practice random acts of kindness and speak only love as much as we can. You never know what a huge impact a word, a smile, a hug might have on your own or other’s lives.


Miguel Dean
Miguel Dean
Miguel Dean is the author of ‘Bring Him Home: A Twin Flame Love Story’ which is his true story of a twin flame love affair with an extraordinary woman. Miguel was born in Colchester, England and his life’s mission in service and love of the Divine Feminine was catalysed at seven months old when he lost his mother to cancer. As a result of other challenges in his early life, as a young man, Miguel spiraled down into a shadowy world of violence, petty crime, addiction, and homelessness. It was the love of his newborn son that inspired him to begin to face his demons and take responsibility. For the last twenty-two years as an author, speaker, and catalyst, he has been immersed in the ‘twin paths’ of healing and transformation which can be summarized as an inner journey to heal his own wounds, facilitated and complemented by his service to others and passion for spiritually rooted social change.


      • You are welcome, Miguel. Truer words have not been said. Let’s all remember that despite our different skin colors, races, religious beliefs, etc. that we are still creatures on this earth and as such we should focus on what we have in common rather than our differences. Kindness is something many of us are lacking in.

  1. I was sitting in our favorite restaurant with my bride yesterday just finishing dinner . I signaled the waiter I wanted my check he came over and said Mr. Roth your dinner has been taken care of. I said but I have not seen the check yet and he explained someone already paid the bill. I asked who and he pointed to 6 tables away. I walked over to thank the gentlemen and he said no thanks necessary you don’t know me but I know of you. You helped my son in law save his business last year. I asked who the son in law was and he told me. I knew right away and told him that is what I do, He said yes but you knew he was in trouble and helped him raise money, work with the bank and vendors and re organized his operation and you did not charge him a nickel. I told him I do some pro bono my way of giving back. he said Well now I get to do something for you. Once again I said thank you introduced my wife to him and his wife and we agreed to get together.