We change, we accept, or we leave.
Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. Too many companies and work environments are highly impacted by the gossip at the water fountain or conversations behind closed doors. Perhaps you remember the old axiom, “We change, we accept, or we leave.”
If we are unable or unwilling to accept what we hear, then we need to empower ourselves to not constantly rehearse the pros and cons of the individual that we are having difficulties with. It makes us appear as if we do not have an interesting life. There are so many other things to talk about: a foreign country, dreams and goals, our
children or pets, and the way we take care of ourselves. We limit ourselves in our lives and in our relationships with others when we are focused on other people.
It is so powerful to not comment on or to remain silent to the negative comments being
made regarding a friend, fellow worker, or new acquaintance. However, if you want him
or her to leave or change negative behaviors, then you need to step up to your inner power and wisdom to take action authentically and do what is in the best interest of the organization or your life. One way or the other—whether you decide to endure the situation, help the individual change behaviors, or move on—you need to speak directly with the individual and not behind his/her back (gossip).
Be open and authentic in this situation. See it through to the end and handle it. Otherwise, if you are unwilling to take action and go directly to the person in question, then you need to choose not to talk about it and hold others to this agreement as well. We make agreements on a daily basis, and what we are giving out we will be getting back. Give greatness out and you will get greatness back. Give acceptance out and you
will get acceptance back. I love the newer version of the Serenity Prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it’s me.