My Approach to Exponential Personal Growth and Development

The Issue

This paper aims to show the typical realities of 21st-century exponential personal growth and development in the second half of life. It’s not until then that we really begin to understand why we are here and what we each uniquely have to offer to the world.  With our life statistical expectancy now going beyond age 80, mid-life is in our 40’s.

Traditionally the United Nations and most researchers have used measures and indicators of population ageing that are mostly or entirely based on people’s chronological age, defining older persons as those 60 or 65 years or over. However, there has been an increasing recognition that the mortality risks, health status, type and level of activity, productivity, and other socio-economic characteristics have changed significantly in many parts of the world over the last century and particularly in the last few decades.  This has led to the development of alternative concepts and measures to offer a more nuanced perspective of what population ageing means in different contexts.”[1]

The Traditional View of the Human Lifecycle

Figure 1 is a simple illustration of the traditional view of the human lifecycle. It reflects a perception that we mature until some point in the middle of our lives and then go into a state of steady decline until we die.

Fig 1:

Continuous Development for Life in the 21st Century

In our early adult years, we make major life-establishment decisions based on our limited life experience and the influences of older people such as parents and teachers. These can relate to basic life issues such as paid work, marriage, children, education, a home, and a mortgage.

By 30, we have had enough experience of life to often wonder if our original choices were the right ones. By 40 we are beginning to feel like we are making some sense out of :

  • our respective unique abilities, and
  • whether we can do something that makes us feel we are of value to the world and not just going through the motions of a life journey.

By the time we reach the  mid-40’s to mid-’50s, many of us have what we often call a midlife crisis.  While it is indeed statistically the middle of life, the ‘crisis’ aspect relates more to the perceived prospect of our lives beginning to start the downhill slide. Put bluntly, we still perceive life is almost over when in fact it is only half over.

Mid-Life Awakening

In reality, the mid-life crisis is in fact a mid-life awakening. We are starting to realize who we really are, what we are good at, and that we have many years ahead of us in which to discover and apply our natural potential.

Much of my work as a mentor over the past 18 years has been helping people make the emotional transition from full-time work to whatever next life adventure they want to create. Most of my clients – and others who were potential clients – did not want to “retire” in its traditional perception.  We want to continue developing ourselves for as long as we stay healthy.

The Japanese people don’t have a word for retirement. They believe instead in the concept or philosophy of IKIGAI which means ‘reason for being” or the value of one’s whole life. Certainly, in this era of rapidly-expanding longevity, we are increasingly realizing the value and potential of living well beyond age 65.

Here’s How I See the Reality of 21st century “second-life living”

I see our growth in this way, “we measure age in years, we measure growth in-depth – depth of understanding life and people, perspective, insight, experience, knowledge, and wisdom”.  It would look something like as shown here in Fig 2

Fig. 2

However, this linear perception does not do justice to the complexity and exponential nature of our second-life growth.

Exponential Growth and Development

Typically, from the mid-’40s much of our establishment needs have been fulfilled, or at least are no longer our top priority. Our ‘awareness” of deeper matters about life and the true depth of our potential begins to kick in. From there the exponential growth phase in our lives takes off.

Exponential growth develops in multi-dimensional ways, including expanded perspectives, knowledge, experience, understanding of people and life, insight, awareness, and wisdom.

The process is cumulative, compounding, even chaotic, rather than linear. This accumulation continues for as long as we remain healthy and want to search and explore life and our limitless potential.

“A huge part of the change in outlook in terms of aging and retirement is based on new understandings of the brain and neuroplasticity – that we can indeed continue to change through choice – and that this is what keeps our brain and mind healthy. Overcoming limiting beliefs about what is possible and having a growth mindset is key! A sense of curiosity to keep exploring and opening up to new experiences. Attitude is everything but it also takes focus, effort and an intrinsic motivation…. which not everyone has”. Gwen Meyer[2] 

As chaotic or uncertain as the process may be, the one certainty is that it will be based on enjoying using and maximizing the natural gifts and passions unique to each of us. Such a foundation opens the way to a path of life we may not have planned but opens our minds to why we are here.


The world of the 21st century desperately needs to tap into the accumulated potential of this “explosion” of multi-dimensional human growth and development that naturally occurs in the second half of our lives.

This reality is vital for two reasons of global importance:

  1. We live in a world where people age 60 and over will soon outnumber children aged five and under. In 2030 the first millennials will start turning 50, and the first gen-Xers will turn 65. At the end of 2030, the first boomers will begin turning 85. There is a great need to see the potential in this rather than a problem.[3]
  2. To end the scourge of ageism and particularly the current employment problems that are based solely on a person’s age.

[1] “World Population Prospects 2019” (United Nations, 2019)

[2] Gwen Meyer, Incremental Steps Pty Ltd Adelaide

[3] An ageing workforce isn’t a burden. It’s an opportunity | World Economic Forum (


Peter Nicholls
Peter Nicholls
When you lose yourself in an interest you enjoy, you find yourself. For 50 years, Peter has been driven by a passion to understand not so much what people enjoy but why they enjoy it. What role does the enjoyment factor play in our lives, our personal growth, and development? After gaining a Bachelor of Arts Degree and a Graduate Diploma in Recreation Planning, Peter spent 30 years working professionally in recreation development, helping people of all ages improve the quality and range of their favourite recreational experiences. He was, in effect, helping people “re-create” their true self through interests they enjoy for the sheer intrinsic pleasure of the experience. His first book “Enjoy Being You” (2001) reflected his work in those years. What might this do, thought Peter, for our lives at work and personal life beyond simply leisure and recreation? After leaving work, Peter re-invented himself as a Life Enjoyment Mentor, helping people enjoy being their true selves. He created a structured approach to help people unpack everything they enjoy in life and repacking those experiences that will become the basis for their future. (Producing many ‘aha’ moments) Having a professional background in what people do when they are not at work, Peter’s writings bring a different, refreshing and revitalizing perspective to what drives our lives, including our work. As well as “Enjoy Being You”, Peter is also the author of “The Hunger to Grow – an Alternative to Retirement” (2016) and “Enjoy Being Proud of Who You Are – 52 Lifeskills Messages for Teenagers” (2013). You can find out more about Peter Nicholls at Peter Nicholls | LinkedIn, at, and on Facebook at Peter Nicholls | Facebook.

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  1. Thanks for your thoughtful comments Aldo. It’s going to take time for the concepts I have put forward to become a reallity in the business world. I like to think it is people like you and me who see a need to peek into the future of life and work as we face an increasingly greater ageing of the population – men and women. I like to hope that the words “productivity” and “economic growth” may eventually change in how they are viewed in terms of human progress. It is becoming increasingly clear we cannot sustain the idea that money and economic development are the keys to true world progress. All OECD nations already maintain a “Wellbeing Index” which advocates progress as meaning many things as well as money. The shame is that the governments of these nations don’t take much notice of the Wellbeing Index in their decision-making. The wisdom of the ages will hopefully eventually prevail.

  2. The older the working population, the greater the likelihood of a slowdown in economic growth. But the problem is not so much the age of the active population itself, but its aging which makes an economy more vulnerable to the slowdown in economic growth.
    Indeed, economies in which the workforce is on average older may experience an acceleration of growth. Older workers are considered as a factor capable of stimulating the economy, due to their long work experience that allows them to better evaluate, for example, the usefulness of a new technology for work processes. But when the overall workforce ages rapidly, there is the risk of an imbalance in qualifications which represents a cost for the company that has to adapt workplaces to older workers.
    In general, older workers should be inclined to adopt new technologies, as technological progress works in their favor, allowing them to replace tasks that require physical effort with more cognitive ones, for which they are perhaps more suitable than younger colleagues.
    How can countries compensate for the aging of the labor supply? I believe that older workers should have an incentive to stay at work. Another part of the solution is to hire more women.