How to Bring Peace to Another
I am a lifelong learner of life. My experiences with others keep me growing and I gain insights daily into what I thought I knew, but really, I only have a small piece of knowledge.
I would like to share a story.
My purpose in life is fulfilled through the various opportunities I have to interact with people. It seems no matter where I am, the environment I am in if it is a male or female, or the age, everyone wants to be heard.
Sometimes we just need to listen, offer an ear and maybe give some encouragement. No unsolicited advice or our own opinion is needed.
Other’s stories can give us a perspective of our own lives and perhaps shine a light on the fact that what we are experiencing is not so bad after all. Life has its curveballs and its joys. I realize that each of us has the capacity to be a presence that is uplifting for another.
A man about to turn 62 revealed some of his life’s curveballs. In the span of one year, he lost his wife unexpectedly, lost his father and was diagnosed with cancer. It had been a year and a half since I last saw him.
As he shared his trials and tribulations through this experience, he mentioned his faith in getting stronger had waned. The longer he talked, the more relaxed he became. I just listened.
When he shared his doubts about his future, I simply gave him a nudge to view it differently.
This inspired him to feel better about the possibilities.
Then, he began to share his own ideas of what he can do to push forward with faith. Some suggestions others had given him, now became important to seriously consider. Ties to the past were being shifted into how his present and future can be improved.
I have always had the urge to give advice. But I have learned to listen more and talk less. This opens the door for others to define what will work for them. I am happy to say, he left with a smile, feeling empowered to make some changes that will give him a better life.
Cheers to living life to the fullest!!
You have most effectively stressed on the importance of listening through some real life instances, Eileen. Reading your musing, I got reminded of what I heard as a child- ‘Contrary to the wide belief that silence is dull and dumbing, I find silence silver , listening golden, and patience diamond. If one is has this treasure -trove of silent and patient listening then they attract the wealth of love!’
Keep Shining …
Rajat
Rajat,
Thank you for reading this musing! Love what you shared. Silence, listening and patience are an amazing combination!! Hope you are aware of your own listening skills…
Cheers!
Eileen
Cheers to living life to the fullest!!…………. It is the only life we have we can hide in the darkness or walk in the light. Strong Ink for this one my friend.
Yes Larry….we have the power to choose! Thank you!
My friend Elieen tells about herself and conveys her thoughts in the most charming way.
Thank you for your kind words!