Morning Musings – 90 Days of Inspiration: Day 3

 I Just Want to Scream!!

Do you ever have those moments or even days where there is someone or many people who drive you up the wall to the point you want to SCREAM?

We may call them idiots, scumbag, lazy, incompetent, stupid. They frustrate us, annoy us and give us headaches. They can be energy vampires, sucking the life out of us. They can be family, partners, business associates, bosses, and even strangers.

There are times I just shake my head and wonder what is wrong with people? I am sure you do the same.

But, I know I cannot change anyone. I can only change myself from within and deflect what does not work for me and hope things change between us as a result.

How can this be done, you may ask?

It starts with intention. Every morning I wake up and take some quiet time to intentionally set my day by keeping my thoughts on positive images and feelings. Then I decide on what my boundaries are and how close I will let someone come to the edge. Speaking with confidence and having a voice to set the stage for how the experience will unfold is key.

Sometimes an experience will run over and over in my mind. Does this sound familiar?

It is the perfect opportunity to stop the wheels from turning and face the anger, disappointment, sadness, feelings of unfairness or whatever is causing the tapes to play.

Is it me or is it them?

If it is them, no need to continue the rant in my head. Instead, I must find ways to stop the behavior causing the distress. Not always an easy task, right?

If it is me, time to do some soul searching and determine what it is I am thinking, doing or not doing that causes someone to believe they can act that way towards me. Also, not always an easy task.

Ever notice the same experience may occur over and over, many times with different people. It makes me chuckle when I realize, for example, it is the third time I am having THIS experience. Something must change! Have you been there, done that?

Change is the catalyst to be embraced for a shift in an experience.

After years of proactive listening and looking within for answers, I no longer feel I need to SCREAM (most of the time). But I do still have to redirect others and stand firm in my boundaries. It makes life a little easier and often more enjoyable.

Screaming is okay, but how long do you want to exhaust yourself over other people?

Consider your sanity and peace of mind.

What would you do differently to have a more peaceful existence?

Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

~Victor E. Frankl


Eileen Bild
Eileen Bild
EILEEN is Founder of The Core Thinking Blueprint Method, CEO of Ordinary to Extraordinary Life, Executive Producer of OTELproductions, and talk show host for OTEL TALK. She holds a Masters in Transpersonal Psychology and is a published author, Internationally Syndicated Columnist, contributing author to the inspiring book Chaos to Clarity: Sacred Stories of Transformational Change and Breakthrough S.P.A.R.K. Coach. Eileen and her husband Trevor are a power couple whose foundation is a 360 view of the world through inspiring, uplifting, and empowering others. Maximizing performance, communication, and drive for growth for your highest achievement is what you will experience working with Eileen and Trevor. They are owners and producers for ROKU channels KNOB TV, OTEL TALK, and OTEL MUSIC VIDEOS; and develop channels for professionals and businesses. They collaborate with companies, such as 360° Nation/Dennis Pitocco, musicians, entrepreneurs, and many more. Go from Ordinary to Extraordinary!

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  1. Thank you Eileen. This is wonderful and something we have discussed at times. With some people is best to just let go——stay away from them. You won’t change them but they can destroy your peace and rob your energy.

    • You are welcome Elvira! Exactly! Toxic people can be very destructive and if they are masters at manipulation it makes it even worse. I am sure many people feel drained because of those who seem to have a mission to take away from you or knock you down. Something I don’t understand….being in peaceful balance with others is a much easier and better feeling way to co-exist.

    • Larry….thank you! You are blessed and fortunate to not let irritating people bother you. We need more like you….:). Yes, life is about forward momentum, and it can take a lot of screaming to get in sync with it!! LOL

  2. It has been my experience that some of those irritating people do or say things not intending to upset, but just out of unawareness of how people do or may take such actions and comments. Perhaps we are all guilty of that from time to time. Then there are others that are truly idiots, vicious, mean, and toxic. Those we must stay away from and sometimes that calls for us to make uncomfortable changes in our lives. Divorce, estranged family members, changing jobs may be called for.

    • Ken….yes! You’re thoughts are my thoughts too. I have had to learn to decide how much am I willing to engage with those who are toxic and try to positively influence a change. It is difficult at times and as you say, uncomfortable, to make the personal changes necessary for our life to be more peaceful. If they continue to be who they choose to be that is unhealthy for me, I must let them go. My door is always open for them to come back in, but it has to be on my terms, not theirs.