I Draw A Line in the Sand
It was not until I was in mid-life did I understand the need for boundaries. People will always be wanting to encroach into our space, sometimes to connect and other times to feed off our energy. Without boundaries, we can become drained, stressed and disempowered.
Boundaries are weakened or crossed in personal relationships, in work environments, and through social interactions.
It is not easy to learn how to be assertive with boundary setting. We often fear the response from others and what they may take away from us as a result. The truth is, with boundaries we gain respect.
The key is to teach others through boundary setting what you will or will not accept regarding communication and actions or lack thereof.
There is an overabundance of disrespect in today’s world. We have created it through the social media craze, lack of good parental guidance and the power-hungry who want to control. These are at all levels of life and it does not discriminate. We see it in the classroom, on the road, in the general public, in our jobs, in politics, in relationships, in keyboard commandos and the list goes on….
Although we have a crisis in the art of communication, it is still possible to override the intensity of people’s lack of attention, the “I need it now” syndrome, and those who feel entitled to speak and act in ways that are destructive.
Whatever happened to respect?
Good question, one I ponder on a regular basis. Let’s break down the word, as I believe words have deeper meanings. Through the study of the “energy” in a word, we can tune in to how this can impact our perceptions and use of communication to gain control of our lives.
R – Regard
E – Energy
S – Stable
P – Positive
E – Enable
C – Communication
T – Together
If you were to take a closer look and write out or consider each word in more depth, there will be some truths about you and your own boundaries. Your emotional attachment to feeling disrespected by others will give you messages and perhaps nudges in the steps to take for better boundaries.
When we give respect, we also gain respect. It is an act of giving and so shall you receive. The energy we carry within always reflects outwardly bringing back to us that which we have released. There is an inner knowing between all humans that the strong prey on the weak. Even if we appear strong on the outside, what matters is the level of strength on the inside. We all want to feel heard, understood and respected.
Respect is the result of drawing a line in the sand………
Draw yours today and see the power within transform your life in amazing ways!
Eileen,
The concept of ‘R.E.S.P.E.C.T’, as enunicated by you, needs to be read by all, but more importantly, this needs to be implemented specially by the categories that you have mentioned in your musings.
You are spot-on. Impatience and a cuture of instant results and gratification has eaten into the very fibre of humanity.
Keep Shining..
Rajat
Rajat,
Thank you for your kind words. Respect is something people want yet feel they do not get or receive as often as they would like. What is not understood is that when we have boundaries we are respected.
It seems the culture of instant results and gratification is getting worse. People are on edge, more defensive and leaning towards attack rather than communicate. Don’t answer them quick enough on social media, text, email….anger, don’t say what they want to hear….anger, they don’t feel satisfied….anger. We have a long way to go to get back on track….
All is not lost though, this too shall pass!
Cheers! Eileen
I love this. I found out that you some times have to say no. You must preserve the self before you can help others.