Mom 91, Me 61 — how did that happen?
Mother/Daughter Relationships
This subject has kept countless therapists, counselors, relationship and life coaches in prosperous businesses for years. There are numerous resources out there — A quick Google search for “how to have a good mother-daughter relationship” produced “About 5,210,000,000 results” in less than 1 second!
The pandemic not only brought me back to the town of my birth, Iowa City, but it also brought me back to live with & care for the person who brought me home from the hospital 61 years ago. See the photo of Mom — Rosie — and me below.
Now that the tables have turned, and the roles have reversed, I found I have new opportunities for growth. I’m leaning into understanding what a solid, loving, forgiving, compassionate, trusting mother and daughter friendship/relationship can be.
Mariah,
You are so incredibly blessed to be living in this chapter with the one who birthed you into this world.
And… to have the awareness how special this time is for both of you.
My first born will be 61 when I am 91… I am trying to let that sink in right now. #lovemymom #lovebeingamom
It is an interesting exercise in math calculations Carolyn, one I hadn’t considered. Putting our imagination to task of what a 91 year old must contemplate. That, in itself, could be an essay. Let me know if you take that one on my friend!
It is beautiful to see the relationship blossom into a something even more special than mother and daughter. As time beats on, all those precious moments create deeper memories. Very happy you are able to spend time with your mother in this way. My mom just turned 80 this weekend. Doing something special for her meant the world to me.
Memories indeed Claudia. I’m so happy you were able to be with your mom too.
Mariah, as I scrolled through the best of Bizcatalylst articles written, yours caught my eye for several reasons. It tugged at my heart, as I lost my mom at age 12, and now I’m 72 and my daughter who is 48, wants nothing to do with a relationship with her and I, actually removing my grandchildren, whom I have not seen in 7 years, and won’t even try to reconcile. I have spent many nights in tears, praying constantly, but now have resigned myself to think reconciliation with never happen. God Bless you and God bless your mom.
Lynn, your honesty about a ‘hot-topic’ subject moves me. Life shifts like sand under our feet, often leaving us unprepared for when the next wave crashes down upon us. There are days that usher in calm seas, swiftly followed by nights (why do nights seem more relentless?) of turbulence. Most of the time there’s little reconciliation within ourselves. May I offer one thing I do know without even knowing you, Lynn. You Are MORE Than Enough. You are a beautiful soul. Journey Well 🙏🏼
Thats great you are able to care for your mother. I am 64 and childless so I don’t know who will taje care of me maybe a niece. It is a loving act for sure.
Eva, how fortunate you are to have a niece to consider. Who do you have listed for a healthcare proxy?
How fun. I just realized when I’m 91 my daughter will be your age! Hmmmmm. How sweet it all is.
Isn’t it interesting to do math such as this Leslie! Enjoy the journey 🥰
As I am heading for granny-sitting time over the summer, your post resonated, Mariah.
Are you heading back to Denmark Charlotte?