Meeting the Person You’ve Become

I hadn’t seen her for more than 30 years. We hadn’t been particularly close back then, but we’ve known each other since the first grade. There’s something about relationships that span a lifetime that makes them special. In a blink, the gap closes and it’s as if no time has passed, only better.

That’s how I felt when I had a chance to see a childhood friend last week. Meeting her for the first time as an adult was an absolute joy; to catch up on years-gone-by and discover the amazing woman she has become, a gift.

And in our unfolding of time, I had a chance to see myself a little differently; as she held up the mirror to the woman I’ve become.

I could remember the insecurities of the past, the longing to fit in, the hunger to be seen.

I could remember the growing pains, the self-discovery, the lessons learned.

College. Dating. Marriage. Moves. Children. Careers. Passions. Fears. A lifetime laid bare in under three hours.

At the end of our talk, there we sat, two grown women who had traversed time together, perhaps seeing one another for the first time.

Think about how far you’ve come to be the person you’ve become. Everything you’ve been through has made you who you are and prepared you for this moment in time. You are ready; more so than you’ve ever been. Ready to let your light shine. Ready to make an impact. Ready.

©OnStage Leadership

Kimberly Davis
Kimberly Davishttps://www.braveleadershipbook.com/
An expert on authentic leadership, Kimberly Davis shares her inspirational message of personal power, responsibility, and impact with organizations across the country and teaches leadership programs world-wide; most notably, her program “OnStage Leadership” which runs in NYC and Dallas, TX. Additionally, Kimberly teaches for Southern Methodist University’s (SMU) Cox School of Business’s Executive Education Program's Transformational Leadership Program and their Latino Leadership Initiative. She is also privileged to teach for the Bush Institute’s WE Lead Program (empowering female leaders from the Middle East). Kimberly is a TEDx speaker and her book, Brave Leadership: Unleash Your Most Confident, Authentic, and Powerful Self to Get the Results You Need, is the 2019 winner of the Benjamin Franklin Silver Award for Business and Career; an Amazon Bestseller in Business Leadership, Business Motivation, and Self-Improvement, and Motivational Business Management; and was named as the number one book to read in Inc. Magazine’s “The 12 Most Impactful Books to Read in 2018,” with a cover-endorsement by best-selling author Daniel Pink.


  1. Kimberly — Been doing a lot of thinking in this area lately as I find myself smack-dab in the middle of Erik Erickson’s last stage of psychosocial development: “ego integrity vs despair.” There are days when those polarities feel like the sides of a ship in a stormy sea – one day I’m doing my best Amy Cuddy power pose and the next day I’m wallowing a bit in despair. But knowledge is power. I know what I’m experiencing is “normal.” I’m also learning to do exactly what you suggest: “Think about how far you’ve come to be the person you’ve become.” It’s amazing what happens when you learn to give yourself a high-five. Thank you, my friend, for always writing what I need to read at the moment.

  2. Love this Kimberley! Every moment of every day prepared us for this now moment. It is part of the tapestry of our lives. And we look back, it reflects that every difficult and precious moment helped us grow into ourselves!