Measuring Success

Do two halves really make a whole?  When one and one are added are they really two or just one and the same?  When we consider having the same opinion is it really the same?  When you introduce a third to the two does that opinion stay the same or change?

Life seems to be much to do with numbers.  How many likes, how many followers, how much money you make, how many cars you own.  Why do we like to measure things like we do?  Is anything that easily measured?

Is success really something that can be measured or is it something that is internal to each of us?  When we read books on how to become more successful is it really that easy to follow certain steps to satisfy that internal need or desire to be successful?

I have spent much of my life feeling like I was not successful.  I remember the tears flowing when my husband asked me why I did not think I was successful and the realization that as much as I wanted to be successful I could not come up with reason why I was not.  So where does that put me on the spectrum of measuring my success?  Am I in that strange space somewhere between success and failure?  That commonplace of just being?  Is that enough?

I think we spend much of our time trying to gain happiness but rarely spend time determining what it is that would make us happy.  Perhaps the exercise would be more fruitful if we put more thought into what success would be like for us individually.

For me my happiness is freedom.  Freedom to be who I am meant to be.  There is a difference between what I do and who I am.  I have been trapped in the walls of Corporate USA for several decades now and I am relatively sure I do not fit in.    When I hear the corporate culture speak of work/life balance I think, “Is it not all my life?”  Why not just strive to be who I am and balance what makes me happy and what I am required to do to survive?

There are times we are the wrong piece to the puzzle but that does not mean we do not fit in the bigger picture.  Ah, puzzle pieces, the group that makes up a whole or is it the singles making up the many.  The many that are forced to be one ultimately have a special place all their own that complete the whole.

My advice?  Find what makes you happy.  Balance time spent doing those things and the things that are required in life.  You never know, you might even find a way to make being happy your life and not have to try to balance anything at all.  Just find where you fit in the big puzzle and you can settle in for a happy healthy road ahead.


Raissa Urdiales
Raissa Urdiales
Raissa lived most of her life along the shores of Lake Michigan in Wisconsin. She currently lives in the quiet city of Tega Cay, South Carolina, just across the border from the very active art community of Charlotte, North Carolina. Raissa has not always considered herself as an artist. She spent a great portion of her adult life staring into computer screens and managing computer system implementations and upgrades in the traditional corporate setting. It was through a chance paint night that she discovered her passion for painting. On her 51st birthday, she treated herself to some acrylic paints and brushes and has not stopped painting since. She balances her passion for creating with her day job as a systems analyst. In the wee hours of the morning, you will find her painting before she immerses herself in the technology that is consuming the world today. Although Raissa does not have formal training in the arts she is very conscious of the benefits it has on the human psyche. She holds a Bachelor's of Science majoring in Psychology where she focused her studies on Organizational Psychology. Through her corporate career, she has learned how to strike a balance between that which provides monetary reward and that which fulfills us as humans. For her, this balance is obtained through painting, writing, and exercise. She is currently a member of the Guild of Charlotte Artists where she exhibits select pieces during the quarterly art shows in and around the Charlotte Metropolitan Area. She has also submitted and is featured regularly in the Light Space & Time online gallery. When she is not painting or working with computer systems, she is writing. She currently has a column with BIZCATALYST 360° named “Artful Being” where she writes on topics both in and out of her corporate life to help others gain balance on what it is to be human.

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  1. Success is fleeting, at best. Focusing on what really makes your socks roll up and down is the key. For me, that’s being the best father I can be to my kids. That gives me the energy to deal with all of the other BS. 🙂 Thanks for the article, Raissa.