What am I most passionate about? What do I care the most about? What is it that makes me want to wake up in the morning and start my day.
People, people that are kind and caring. People that respect me for who I am. People who care about others. When I think of the best of interactions it is with those I can be completely honest with. That will be completely honest with me. I respect that.
It angers me when people are treated unfairly. There should be no reason that one person should be allowed to hurt another. Whatever it is that needs to be accomplished, it does not need to be at the cost of someone else’s happiness.
I have had friends who have fallen victim to the “Mean Girl”, the “Bully”. It takes a toll on them. They retreat. They have self-doubt. They question their ability and their worth. They may be crying in the bathroom, on the way to and from work, in any private place they can find. They try to cope with the environment that is “mean” to them. Ultimately they may escape from the company that does not address the “Mean Girl”. It does not make it ok.
What makes up a “Mean Girl”? Some women climb the corporate ladder doing it by shedding their femininity. They put on their manly suits, crop their hair just so, apply their make-up flawlessly, shake hands strongly and pull you close to display their power. They have replicated the male persona in a female body. They are feared by women and are applauded by men because “they get the job done”. They will not have a crack in the armor as that would show weakness. These women are the most dangerous to the success of women crashing through the glass ceiling. They have sold out the values that make them women. They have not taught the men at the top the value that a “true” woman viewpoint would bring to the table. They are the reason for the lack of women at the top because they are not the majority they are the minority of what women are like as a whole.
So when I think of what I’m passionate about I think about the strong women I know. You know what? They cry, they get frustrated, they care about other people, they are the leaders of their household by default.
So when I think of what I’m passionate about I think about the strong women I know. You know what? They cry, they get frustrated, they care about other people, they are the leaders of their household by default. They can identify the “Mean Girl” from a mile away and will steer clear so as to not cross their path. They can bring her to the attention of others but rarely will anyone do anything to stop the “Mean Girl”. Ultimately some may turn into these types of women just to try to survive but it will never be who they are.
So what would I love to see? I would love to be able, to be honest and point these women out when I see them and let them be an example of what the majority of women don’t want the leadership to be comprised of. I would love a man to agree that regardless of what that person gets accomplished that the price that is paid by those around them is too great. That they are identified before they infect other women.
It’s not enough to talk about sexual abuse in the workplace. That is one small part of the bigger picture. The abuse that occurs from women on women is destructive. The “cat fight” is not something that should be watched. Women and men need to call out this type of behavior and ask for it to be addressed. Yes, the way that men treat women is important but the applauding of women who treat other people poorly is more at the heart of why women don’t rise to the top. They are the minority and they are beating the majority because the men in those leadership roles are welcoming them to the club.