So often Grandparents are left out of the lives of their grandchildren and often for the slightest reason, I realize that there are grandparents out there (hopefully few) whom their children have a good reason for keeping them away, but it better be a dam good one. Even if you don’t want them in your life, at least communicate if possible. Again, there may be a few who fall into, “No”, can’t do that, and I get it.
Grandparents are the Wisdom, which becomes a teacher to their grandchildren in many ways. But through trial and error in their own lives, raising their own children and learning from the mistakes.
By the time we become grandparents, so much has changed in the world of baby comfort. Better car seats, (as when I had my daughter back in 74, there was no law that you had to have car seats, I owned a 72 VW Bug, which I named Susie, and my own father referred to Susie as a pregnant roller-skate. My daughter would hold onto the little handle and sometimes pretend she was driving, I look back and think how crazy was I. Thank God we survived,
The babies clothe warmers! We warmed our own washcloths with warm water and soap! Similac and rice cereal; you warmed the milk, poured in the cereal and shook the bottle, tested the nipple and “Viol “a”!! Or how about the cloth diapers, you rinsed them out and washed them or left them for the delivery of the replacements to arrive. No such thing as Pampers, or Huggies. With all that being said, let’s fast-forward to playing outside when now its “play dates”.
My daughter whom I love very much had all the opportunities that I did not have, Through a personal issue I tried to resolve, where it was not quite quick enough, I was left with being at fault and through the years from graduating from high school, entering and graduating from college, then entering the job world as a career, getting married, our relationship was up and down.
Finally, one day, after trying but not succeeding, her husband and her decided they no longer wanted me in their lives. And they didn’t want me to reach out to my (4) grandchildren either. I was devastated and still to this day, whatever it was, I ask God, to mend their hearts. I have no idea what can’t be forgiven. It’s been 7 years this July that I have not seen or spoken to my daughter or seen my grandchildren, (their decision not mine). Because I don’t want to be the cause of anything, I have placed this situation in God’s hand.
Every day I think of them and wonder what has been told to my grandchildren.
In conclusion, this is the point of this article; Grandparents should never be eradicated from their grandchildren, barring very serious circumstances. Grandparents earn the right to love on their grandchildren, tell them stories, teach them of their ancestry, something we could not do with our own children for many reasons, whether it be raising them as a single mom, working two jobs, trying to give them a better life, making sure they had a good home. Maybe we were not able to be stay at home moms, but we tried the best we could. I only hope that whoever reads this article, and has children, that they realize the importance of having grandparents in their lives. Grandparents are on their way to Heaven as the years pass, and to let them leave this world without the kind of respect, love, and joy they deserve is hurtful and painful. I pray every day for this to not be the case for many in my shoes if none at all.