Dear ones the manifesting process is no mystery to most of you. You have learned the basics: set a goal and focus on it, give your attention to what you do want as opposed to that which you do not have and be consistent in offering a high vibration of excitement and delight toward this desire you’re wanting to manifest. But we’re seeing so many of you scratching your heads in bewilderment as day after day, month after month, year after year those manifestations endure as part of your imagination instead of your physical reality and we say, “You have not because you have dragged the past into your present as you attempt to create a different future. It’s an impossible task!”
Unless you have done the work to free yourself from the pain you associate with where you are you will always be trying to create from a place of pain and not freedom.
Let us explain when you first set a goal or state a desire it’s more likely in response to a perceived lack in some area of your life. You are responding to an area in your life that is uncomfortable and unpleasant and you feel that your life would be better if that circumstance were resolved so you set about creating a goal, repeating affirmations and visualizing your desired end result but unless you have done the work to free yourself from the pain you associate with where you are you will always be trying to create from a place of pain and not freedom.
If you don’t first eliminate these three blasts from your energetic field (whether you are conscious of their presence or not) you will attempt to manifest from this place of lower vibrational energy
You may become angry that you’re experiencing what you’re experiencing, resentful that you have to deal with this when others have escaped this burden and you have not and jealous that someone else has what you want.
When you desire more money or better health you may say, “My life would be better if I didn’t have this burden.” Immediately you look at how not having money or good health has limited you in this life. You may become angry that you’re experiencing what you’re experiencing, resentful that you have to deal with this when others have escaped this burden and you have not and jealous that someone else has what you want. If you don’t first eliminate these three blasts from your energetic field (whether you are conscious of their presence or not) you will attempt to manifest from this place of lower vibrational energy. You will consciously or unconsciously look at others who have what you do not have and ask, “Why do they have it and not me?” You may even go further along the road of negativity and ask, “What am I doing wrong?” And then from that low point of what’s wrong, you will try to reach the highest vibrations where manifestation occurs. We tell you it cannot be done. None of you will ever be able to leap from the “Why me,” state of anger and pity to the manifesting state that declares with conviction, “Of course I deserve it. I am a creator and the bringer of my highest good.”
Everything that happens to you happens because you agreed to have that experience, to learn from it, to explore it and if you desire, to rise above it
Then you must also look at resentment, that subtle voice says, “If I didn’t have this problem, this person or this difficulty, I would be flying high.” The temptation here is to point fingers and assign responsibility for your circumstance to everyone and everything except the one who created it, you. You may not have been a conscious creator but you are still responsible because everything that happens to you happens because you agreed to have that experience, to learn from it, to explore it and if you desire, to rise above it. You are not the victim you are the creator. So when you are resentful of where you have placed yourself, do the work to remove yourself from those circumstances and place yourself in a place you do desire to be. There is never a time when you are stuck, there is never a, “This is all there is,” unless you decide that that’s how it should be. You are always the deciding factor in your life so being resentful can only drive you deeper into the circumstances you are trying to avoid.
Everyone deserves the best life they can create for themselves and each of you is only limited by your ability to conceive of this life
Finally, there is jealousy. You may look at others and claim you are grateful they have what you do not have but unless you’re really feeling good about you, those words are an attempt to convince yourself and fool the universe. Instead of pretending you’re happy for the other person, do the work, get in there and get digging and root out that feeling that life is unfair, that you got the short end of the stick or that you deserve the good more than anyone else. The truth is that everyone deserves the best life they can create for themselves and each of you is only limited by your ability to conceive of this life.
Sometimes you may be trying to protect yourself from disappointment so you place carefully constructed roadblocks in your way that will save you from experiencing the disappointment you fear
So how do you go about creating a life of joy without dragging around the tails of anger, resentment and jealousy? You go deep within to the heart of these emotions and you sit with them. Ask them why they’re there, how they’re serving you and even if they feel they’re protecting you. Sometimes you may be trying to protect yourself from disappointment so you place carefully constructed roadblocks in your way that will save you from experiencing the disappointment you fear. Other times you’ve acquired these emotions without realizing and you’re ready to enjoy the freedom you would know if they were to be released.
Find reasons to be grateful and delighted by what is here now and give yourself the gift of freedom
No matter the reason for their existence one thing is always true, you cannot move forward as long as they’re weighing you down so before you try to manifest something new or if you discover that you’re stalled in your manifesting process take the time to go within and discover what you’re holding on to that cannot possibly serve you. Whatever was, was. Let go of it and embrace the now. Find reasons to be grateful and delighted by what is here now and give yourself the gift of freedom. Freedom to manifest your desires, your dreams and the life you have always wanted.
It’s all up to you. However, you have the power to do it just as soon as you release yourself from the bondage created by anger, resentment, and jealousy.
Emotions are part of our daily lives throughout our life. We live with emotions. We feel them in the body, they make us react, they cloud our minds.
The ability to forgive, but above all to overcome resentment, is necessary to create strong and healthy intimate relationships. Those who know how to forgive have greater well-being, a more peaceful life and a happier transition to adult life.
Jealousy is actually a very complex emotion that moves deep feelings like fear, abandonment, loss, pain, anger. A lived experience that emerges in significant relationships when we feel threatened, violated by someone or something that can take away what we believe is our right. An extreme attempt to protect the relationship, too. And often completely useless. Being jealous does not reduce the likelihood of the partner going away, being attracted to others, being distracted by us. Rather. The more one is jealous, the more one suffocates the other, the more one wants to escape, the more one feels justified in deception. Unfortunately jealousy enjoys a certain credibility in the sentimental sphere. He manages to pass himself off as a measure of “true love”. He can make himself attractive, especially in the initial stages of the bond. With well-regarded attitudes like submerging attention, phone calls, messages, gifts. In reality, only attempts at control.
Perhaps, in small doses, he talks about commitment, care, involvement. Jealousy as a way of assessing whether to invest emotionally in each other. But it easily turns towards dangerous and destructive attitudes. Forcing in a grip of suspicion, self-deception, assaults and disappointments. Making irrational, always making people think the same things and moving away from reality. A delirium with a series of symptoms very close to those of emotional dependence.
Aldo, what a brilliant look at jealousy. I think it is so important to be educated about what is at the heart of that which we’re feeling. When one understands the motivation behind the behavior, fear and other responses are less likely to gain a foothold and we’re then able to adjust and adapt in a way that is beneficial instead of harmful. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Sending love and blessings
Thanks to you who have read and commented. It is always a pleasure to know your opinion.
Blessings to you always, Aldo
Marcia, I love the analogy of Resentment, Anger, and Jealousy being The three-headed dog that can hold you back in life. In Greek mythology, it is a three-headed dog that guards the gates of Hell so its occupants cannot escape. We must be careful not to create our own Hell-hound that keeps hounding us and holding us back from moving forward in life. Great article! Sharing!
Kat, that’s exactly the image we need to keep in mind when we deal with any of these emotions. We may feel justified in expressing them but in the long run, we’re really just sentencing ourselves to the hell of our own making when we choose to allow any negative energy to step into our energetic field. Sending you love and abundant blessings
This is a very thought-provoking article, Marcia. Walking around with all this anger that you have stored inside of you is not unhealthy but it can also lead to an explosion the end result fo which is that you create a catastrophic event. We can resent people who have hurt us. Letting go of that type of resentment may or not be easy. Material jealousy is a wasted emotion or feeling. Your neighbor who seemingly has everything may be struggling in another area or have less than he thinks he has.
As usual, Joel, your thoughtful reply was so spot on. We always have a choice as to how we can view our lives and our situation. We never can know what’s going on behind the scenes in another person’s life but we can share love with all and in that way, we help ourselves and everyone else in the world. Sending you deep love and abundant blessings.
Thank you, Marcia, for your kind reply. I think your comments make a ton of sense. Unless somebody tells us we have no idea what is going on in their lives. The only clue is a look in their eyes or on their faces or a choice of words. We can help by giving to others plus lending our hearts or a shoulder to cry on. One way or another caring and showing care is something we can all do in one form or another.
Joel, thanks for always being one to both care and share. You are a treasure.