“I want to…”
- Understand my supervisor’s needs and how to address those needs.
- Communicate with my boss better.
- Influence my supervisor to eliminate obstacles to doing my job well.
- Learn what actions I can take to be viewed as a more valued and trusted associate.
- Understand the type and level of communication upper management wants.
- Garner support for ideas.
- Be more successful and make the company more successful.
Some responders expressed the wish to advance. I also observed a humble desire to simply do a good job. I was surprised and heartened by the comments.
As a manager, we might be surprised if we received this feedback. We might be thinking, “You mean my employees don’t already know this? And if they don’t, why aren’t they asking me?”
Who knows? But we’ve identified a gap here where you might be able to help them improve their performance and help you. They want to.
Clue them in about managing up.
It’s so easy to get caught up in day-to-day business and compartmentalize what is needed for this presentation or that project. Take a breath, step back and set the foundation of:
- How “we,” in the supervisor-employee relationship, work best together. Consider questions like, “What do I expect of you and what do you expect of me?”
- The type of approach, responsiveness, and leadership needed to be considered valued and trusted.
- How the employee’s approach, etc. needs to shift when communicating with upper management.
One of my training participants told me about the day his supervisor went through the process of how a promotion happens.
Beyond the required performance and development, the supervisor described how it’s brought up, who’s involved, the buy-in and sign-off that’s necessary, the kind of discussions that takes place with other managers, etc. My participant said that day he felt like he was going home from work with a golden nugget of a gift.
Your employees want to hear how things work. From you.
Author’s Note: A version of this post originally ran on the Lead Change Group site, March 12, 2013.