Elderly and lonely people; perhaps their partners Having passed away, may be shy or reticent, but gathering with other folks for a cup of tea and tea or coffee and cake may create a new dimension to their lives.
The elderly, can feel isolated and eventually ‘disappear’ into themselves. They may not have families nearby to provide empathy and support. The elderly population is growing significantly; most living longer than ever before.
As one of the volunteers at the local community center, I am so pleased to make a difference in elderly folks’ views on engaging with like-minded people. There are many who know each other as friends and gather around one of the tables, ‘talking for England’; a lot of chatting while enjoying delicious cakes, tea, and coffee. A guest attending for the first time can be a little apprehensive, but on noticing the easy, relaxed atmosphere; no obligation, and sensing friendship and kindness, soon become relaxed.
Volunteers welcome them and they choose an appropriate table to sit with fellow guests. Sometimes they recognize someone they know. And then it is time to sample the cakes and cookies. Some of which are provided by a generous baker in town. Almost all the guests are in their eighties or even nineties and possess such a sense of humor. Pure delight!
There is a truly wonderful atmosphere of empathy and friendliness.
The topic of cakes sometimes creates conversation focused on Belgian chocolate brownies to lemon sponge cakes. There is some humor because I just love chocolate brownies! One or two guests after being served cakes at the ‘goodie’ table hide such cakes behind their backs pretending I won’t see them! Such laughter and smiles.
There are around 35+ guests and increasing as local residents recommend the Chat-Tea Café. Volunteers take orders and serve the tea, coffee, and goodies. We sit with guests and chat. Sometimes, a guitarist comes along, sings, and plays. His Dad was a volunteer and 93 years old. Very special.
Occasionally someone accompanies a person with dementia. By the end of the event, they are very, very gently engaging, or just sitting comfortably having a cake and tea. So special.
So many compliments are afforded to volunteers. We volunteer because we just love making a difference.
Such wonderful guests.
So rewarding.
Images courtesy of Chat Tea Cafe
In the neighborhood where I used to live, we had a monthly neighborhood coffee/tea. Neighbors took turn to host, and it was always the same day, alternating mornings and afternoons so those who were busy elsewhere might have a chance to at least participate every other month.
For those who lived alone without family near by, it was something they looked forward to.
Come pandemic, and the events moved outside with BYOC/T and 6′ distance, and we helped those more at risk get groceries home. Although I have moved, they still once in a blue moon ask if I come over for tea.
It doesn’t take much but somebody needs to lead and somebody needs to be first follower.
Thank you for making such events possible, Simon.
Hello Charlotte,
You describe reality rather well. Our Chat-Tea Café was busy until Covid and of course everything closed. It took a while for guests to return as they were concerned. When we eventually opened the Community Center doors, regulars returned and eventually new guests who were told about the event by friends. Seeing people returning tine and tine again is such a pleasure. A few are in their nineties.
The Community Magazine which delivered to every house in the area has much information describing the friendly, kind atmosphere.
Thank you for your encouraging comments. Always appreciated.
Simon
Simon this is a heart initiative. Communities both large and small have so many isolated or lonely people, such events are critical to ensure their wellbeing and safety, but, more importantly their happiness optimism and hopefully, positivity. It’s marvellous that you do this, enjoy it and I trust feel fulfilled. It sort of completes the chain, everyone wins, you and your volunteer colleagues should be proud.
Thank you so much for your comments Chris. Most of the guests are elderly women; well in their eighties and older. Engaging with like-minded people is essential for wellbeing. I am aware you are also engaged in charitable activities; much to your credit.
Thank you again, my friend.