Make Your Life Like Music

Psychologist Helen Marlo explores the myth of work-life balance and notes that the rhythm of life keeps changing. The best thing we can do is go with it. Think of life as a symphony moving from a crashing overture to a brief adagio then back to the uptempo beat again.

In this podcast, Helen also explains why she started the organization, Mentoring Mothers, and why women in the workforce are more stressed than ever.   Her advice:  When starting a family, it’s especially important to think about the role home played in your own childhood, and how you can make this a place of joy and celebration.

On work-life balance:

“I don’t even use the word work-life balance. I challenge that mindset and teach others to be in what I call work-life rhythm. And that encourages a more fluid a more receptive more attuned stance to life.”

On her non-profit organization, Mentoring Mothers:

“One of the reasons I started Mentoring Mothers was to help women realize how charged home is and what different meanings home has for them. The stay at home mom who is afraid to leave her house often has some early trauma (as does) the woman who can’t bear to be at home and has to be out as much. My work is helping them to relate to home differently. Building a healthier connection to home. A more flexible relationship to home in all its dimensions.”

On getting enough family time in the digital age:

“We have a growing awareness of how much (our devices) intrude on the home space. Even something as simple as developing rituals based in the home can help offset this and be really life-giving. Here’s one ritual I’ve done with all of my children. At some point, each one received a magic box that contained an encouraging message..or something concrete that they really desired. It might also include a note, “This ticket is good for time with the family” or a family photo.  This ritual has changed as they’ve gotten older but it grounds them in this idea that what happens at home is valuable and there can be magic and beauty in home life.

“Sometimes we move the furniture then put on disco music and dance…”

Reinventing Home
Reinventing Home
Reinventing Home was founded in late 2019 by a group of writers, academics, artists, and activists who believe that home is our primary attachment, setting the stage for lifelong patterns of intimacy and self-renewal, and determining the values of our culture. It arrived just in time to help our readers navigate their new home-bound status during the pandemic. Join us for an enlightened conversation about the way we feel about our nests and the larger issues that are shaping our sense of home — from shifting patterns of work to technology and climate change to life under quarantine, and beyond.  Our contributors consider home as a personal sanctuary, a cultural salon, and an interactive hive—and also explore the broader notion of community and our search for belonging.   But that’s not all. Home is an inexhaustible topic because it’s part of our never-ending quest for soul.  From Homer to the Wizard of Oz, our stories, songs, and art have been about the quest for adventure—-and the endpoint of bringing our insights and our hard-won wisdom home.  This digital magazine has been called “a thinking person’s guide to home” and “a mindful approach with a Jungian twist.”  It embraces everything from the secret lives of our possessions to how household dust is related to the creation of the cosmos. We have received endorsements from best-selling authors Isabel Allende and Jean Shinoda Bolen.  Phil Cousineau, host of Global Spirit on PBS, has called Reinventing Home “indispensable for our changing times.” A venture in non-profit journalism,  Reinventing Home is generously funded by E. Patricia Herron, a former superior court judge in northern California, and by readers like you.

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