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Love: It’s In the Details …

My father died five years ago of Stage IV Lung Cancer. As did my mother. They died within two weeks of one another. I could say they “passed away,” I suppose. A softer, more palatable alternative. But, that’s not really what happens, is it?

If only.

Five years. It seems like a long time…but then again, it doesn’t. Not when I can remember like it was yesterday, the days my sister and I sat with them in the hospice room they shared. Two beds, side by side. Together, as always.

Even though they fought, sometimes viciously, my parents were cleaved together. One without the other was unthinkable.

What did we talk about for so many hours in that room? Nothing and everything. Anything, actually, that would keep them engaged and in the moment, instead of dwelling on what was waiting in the dark beyond. I doubt that it worked. They were too far gone for bullshit. And far too tough.

We brought them food they didn’t eat. Optimism they didn’t buy. And, at some point in their inevitable decline, Dad stopped talking. As if he had been robbed of his ability to speak. My sister and I believe that, when he became incontinent and had to be diapered like a newborn, the loss of his dignity was an even greater blow than the cancer.

He lost his power of speech and gained an eerie, thousand-yard stare. I don’t know what he saw, nor do I want to. I just wish I could get that look out of my mind.

We didn’t stop talking to him, though. We never stopped trying to bring him back.

Dad was a keeper. I wouldn’t have realized this if my sister hadn’t told me about the letters, little notes, photos, file cards filled with the names of books he had read and their ratings —and all the other “stuff” he held onto. The stuff that defined him…and us. The stuff of love. Boxed away, to be taken out and read and re-read. Later.

Dad loved crossword puzzles. He labored over them incessantly. I still see him, hunched over the kitchen table, his expression tight, focused. I think puzzles freed him, if only briefly, from the dark thoughts and depression we now know he struggled with, all his life. Thoughts of the man he was, and the one he should have been.

College was not an option when my Dad was growing up. His father, my grandfather, was a cab driver with a propensity for gambling. The money just wasn’t there.

Dad was a salesman. Home security systems. Car parts. You name it, he could sell it. Yet he didn’t think much of his profession. I don’t know why because my siblings and I never wanted for anything. Yet, he never gave himself the credit he deserved. That hurts, to this day. I hope he knows, wherever he is, how much we owe him.

An eloquent writer, which, I like to believe I get from him, Dad could have made a career of that, if only he’d had the encouragement to flourish.

We had a difficult relationship. Possibly because I was so much like him. Blowups were frequent, and we could go for weeks without talking, even when I still lived at home.

There were times when I wondered if we loved one another. And other times when I realized that we did. Fiercely. And, it didn’t matter that my baby sister was the favorite. She deserved to be. While she did everything for them, even before they got sick, I was off nursing my wounds from the latest bust-up with my father, mother, or both. My brother…well, he’s no longer in the picture. Families.

Love really is in the details. The little and not-so-little things that Dad held onto. So many displays of his love.

My sister recently showed me a note from Dad’s stash. One that I’d written to our parents when I was just a dumb, little kid. I’d heard them having sex one night and it shocked the hell out of me. Even though I was too young to know what it all meant, I had a sense, somehow, that sex was “dirty.” The note said something to the effect of (punctuation cleaned up, by the way):

“Mom and Dad, I can’t believe what you did! My friends’ parents wouldn’t do that! I’m running away. Sherry. P.S. I’ll be at the park.”

My father got the biggest kick out of that. I’m smiling just thinking about it. He held onto his little girl’s note, forever.

Everyone talks about “true love.” How to get it. How to keep it when you finally do get it. And on, like that. But maybe, the truest love is evidenced by what our loved ones leave behind, for those of us left behind.

Love you, Dad. And, thank you.

Sherry McGuinn
Sherry McGuinnhttps://medium.com/@sherrymcguinn
Sherry McGuinn is a long-time, Chicago area, advertising/marketing writer, blogger and, for the last fifteen years, screenwriter. A big-time dreamer and proud of it, Sherry has had two short films produced, one in L.A., the other in New York. Both won several awards and screened at festivals but she is still "fighting the good fight," in order to become a full-time, working screenwriter. A passionate straight-shooter who never rests on her laurels, Sherry writes about damn near everything because how do you encapsulate…life? Unflinching in her determination to “just tell the truth,” Sherry strives to educate, engage and inspire others to follow their dreams. A lifelong animal lover and advocate, Sherry resides in a Chicago suburb with her husband and their three fabulous felines.

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13 CONVERSATIONS

  1. Sherry, thank you for sharing this story with us. It is beautiful and a lovely tribute to your dad. I wasn’t there when my mom died. I live five hours away from where I still call “home.” So, my brothers and their wives were there to help my dad in the first 24 hours. However, after my husband and I arrived, my one sister-in-law and brother shared a story with me.

    When they were going through my mom’s closet looking for her burial attire, they found a shopping bag hanging in the closet with a note attached to it. Inside were her unmentionables. The letter set forth instructions with what to do with them when she died; that is, make sure she was wearing them even in her death.

    Her presence remained strong. We all roared, including the funeral home director. But we honored her wishes.

    Thanks for this piece today, Sherry. As always, your writing transports the reader within seconds.

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