Not all of us can do great things, but we can do small things with great love.
—Mother Teresa
During this past week, my friends and I celebrated three years of standing with love signs once a week for three years at the main intersection of Black Mountain; a friend I knew when we parented our young children, died; and another beloved friend, my best friend in college, entered the hospital as she battles an illness that could take her life.
I’ve also been clearing, cleaning, and relocating artwork into different locations of the House of Joy as one way to deal with the grief love I’m experiencing.
There’s something profound about taking small actions each day with great love for ourselves and the people we love. Whether it’s a quick text with an attached photo, an email riff expressing your appreciation for a cherished friend, a phone call to a family member who lives far away to say, “I love you,” or clearing out a junk drawer in your kitchen, small actions can shift energy inside of you, in your space, and your life.
The smallest, kind actions you do, maybe without realizing it, can make such a positive and meaningful difference in another person’s life and your own. You may be the one person today who reminded them that they are seen, heard, valued, believed, and loved.
Their gracious receiving of your words or gift of love becomes a source of warmth for your heart, energy to keep you walking gently through your days during a time of great change and challenge for so many of us.
I notice many people struggle to feel worthy of goodness, of kindness. Yet, when you soften in the glow of receiving, you may notice you get tears in your eyes, feel a warmth in your heart and soul. Like nutritious food for your body, you can graciously receive people’s love, knowing there’s an abundance, an expansion of compassion all around you.
I also notice people being inspired to generously give. When there’s an inner spark to express kindness, people often do so in beautiful and astonishingly life-giving, creative ways. A woman on Facebook reached out letting me know she wanted to dance to my college friend’s favorite song, which happens to be “Amazing Grace.” I let the woman know she’s an angel on Earth and that my friend would welcome her dance of prayer.
You may generously give to others and be growing in your capacity to graciously receive into your heart acts of kindness or words of affection. Like inhaling and exhaling, both remain essential to the cycle of life, the circle of love. Your gracious receiving becomes a gift to the giver. Your small acts of kindness for yourself and others done with great love create a ripple of goodness for our grieving, transforming, beautiful world.
Laura, your junk drawer was a lovely and funny reminder how performing what could otherwise be a chore with an intention from love changes how it feels to do the task. It is the same task – but how we think about it can turn it into so much more. Some tasks are just love for ourselves because we deserve to live in a place we feel good about. W/o junk in drawers.
Charlotte, I enjoy reframing tasks as I remember all the people not able to do certain things-whatever it might be including clearing a junk drawer to create some peace of mind-clarity. I notice if I have a task in the past I haven’t enjoyed, I remind myself somewhere, someone can no longer do this. I get to! I’m healthy, alive, and here. Rarely say “I have to…” anything, anymore. Rather say, “I get to…!” or even “I’m fortunate to…(drive, cook a meal, grocery shop, walk in nature, run in the rain). Love for ourselves-our space-can enhance our love for others-no matter if they have junk drawers or not…:) Thank you for your insight about a reframe of a simple task-from love, with love…:) I appreciate your perspective and learning what you’ve gleaned. 🙂
Dear Laura,
Ever word, every letter, ever full stop, every comma of your beautifully empathetic essay filled me with admiration for you as one of Nature’s givers. Thus you give, we receive and there lies love, bonding and synergy. Thank you for spreading ‘the word’. As for me, I derive joy and kindness from like minded friends including you. Thank you for the mention.
Simon
Thank you so much, Simon for your very kind words of reflection about this essay. There’s much joy and kindness in our interactions. I’m incredibly grateful even as we do this through sentences, phrases, words and photos…You are a treasure. I appreciate you, Simon!