Lost and Found – Part 1

In the previous article ‘Search or Seek’, I had talked about how search is transactional and seeking is transformational or spiritual.  If you were to reconstruct your day, you would make an ‘I-did-list’ and ‘I-did not-do-list’. Yes, you forgot something, right?  What did you forget?

We forget what we call as ‘people, things and deeds’. Of these, things you did not do, you can make up in another ‘to-do-list and get back. We don’t need to search for the forgotten deeds.

How about people and things?

We search ‘people and things’, when we lose them. If we find them back, will they be the same?  Can we accept them as they are found?  I had written a poem on this under the same title ‘lost and found’.


The mind searches for the last image of where we left them,

The visuals and the walkthroughs that we attempt to cobble together

About the beloved thing or the thing that we needed

But somewhere lost when we seek or need it

When we remember we go to the place we forgot

And search there – it is the same place, but it is long past

If we get it, the delight of finding the lost object

Else the desperate search, visualizing and trying to remember

At some point, we all give up on it that could never be found

Life goes on, some with fond memories and others with regret

Yet in the long run, we could live without it for better or for worse.


It is the same about a person when they leave us

For short periods or longer, forever or for good

When we try to cling to them we still can’t

For life goes on, or else death takes them away

If they are alive there is a possibility to reunite or meet

But it is the same body but a different person

This time changed and weathered by Father Time

Yet we expect them to be like they were

Like how we had them in our memories 

The person has gone or changed if we meet again


Our fickle minds play tricks, bringing pain, joy and sorrow

Just because we bury our head in the sands of time

To understand that people change for better or for worse

So will we ever find what we thought we had lost?

We are happy when we got back the ‘thing’ that we lost. But when we don’t get back, we either replace the ‘thing’ or go on in life without it.

But when we lose people, forever or for good, we live with their memories. Either they move away or their life ends on this great blue marble that we live on.

Now let us look at people who we got back in our lives – the one who we had lost, and searched for. When they come back, are they the same people?  Mostly, people change with time. Time brings in experiences and memories to people, and also signs on our once-smooth skins with wrinkles and scars.  These experiences and memories, wrinkles and scars transform people.

For the person, that is ‘us’, who is searching for the ‘lost person’, acceptance of the transformation of the ‘found person’ is not easy.

I would love to hear your experience on this.

Of course, I have not written about ‘losing and finding ourselves’. That is for the next article. Look forward to your thoughts.


Ashok Subramanian
Ashok Subramanian
Ashok Subramanian is a Poet and Fiction Author based in Chennai, India. Ashok has been writing blogs and content since 2011. From technology and management articles, and to website content, Ashok has written articles on businesses, finance, funding, capital markets, management, strategy, and sustainability over the years. His poems and articles, which were published in blogs got a publishing turn when he had time in hand to put together his poetry and short story collections. He publishes short stories and poetry reviews regularly in his blog. His published works so far: a) Maritime Heritage of India - Contributing Writer - b) Poetarrati Volume 1 &2: Self-published on Amazon in Kindle and Paperback; Ranked #8 in Amazon Hot Releases in May 2020. c) A City Full of Stories: A Short fiction Collection based on people and events of Mumbai: Self-published in Amazon in Kindle and Paperback. d) Poetarrati Ponder 2020 - A collection of Poem Reviews He is currently working with his creative advisor and publisher on his next poetry collection. His second short story collection about Kolkata, India, and his first novel are in the manuscript stage. He is a graduate in Engineering from Madurai Kamaraj University, India, and a post-graduate in Management from IIM Calcutta, India. He currently runs Strategic Advisory and Investment Banking companies headquartered in Bengaluru. He lives with his wife Gayathri and son Anirudh in Chennai, India.

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