Truly great conversations are, sadly, few and far between. Why is that?
I think it’s not so much what we are talking about… as it is how we are talking about it.
It’s not so much about how interesting the subject is… than it is about how interested we are in the conversation and in the moment.
It’s not so much about what we say… but rather, about what we hear.
It’s not so much about who we are having the conversation with… as it is about truly being with the person during the conversation.
It’s (definitely) not about winning or losing. It’s about learning and growing.
Serious about having great conversations? Here are a few suggestions:
- Invest 12 minutes in learning and growing with Celeste Headlee’s TED Talk, “10 ways to have a better conversation.”
- Consider this gem from Stephen R. Covey – “Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
- Think back to the last time you truly felt heard and understood. Then commit to helping someone else enjoy that (amazing) feeling.
I look forward to our next (great) conversation.