Sometimes we have to let things happen because everything happens in its time. We don’t always have to waste energy searching for further motivations. We don’t need to be always inspired to act. We don’t need to read any other lists or posts that remind us that we are not doing enough.
Let’s act as if, after being immersed in articles, quotes, talks, messages, suddenly, a small switch in our brain is activated. In truth, nobody ever talks about this possibility when discussing success, motivation, willpower, goals, productivity, and all those words that have become popular.
We must be what we are until we are no longer. We change when we want to change. We put our ideas into practice when we think it is best. This is exactly how it should happen. And what I believe we all need, more than anything else, is this: to allow ourselves to be who we are at all times. We are not robots. We cannot simply pull motivation out of the cylinder when we don’t have it. Sometimes we go through a particular period.
Life teaches us many things but sometimes it makes us take the most difficult road. And, since we cannot have control over everything if the words or the drawing or the ideas are not going to materialize, they will not. We can start each new day with the best of intentions, but if it’s not the right time, it’s not the right time.
We must allow ourselves permission to be human beings. Sometimes the story is not ready to be written because we have not yet had the inspiration for our main character. Sometimes we need some more experience time before we can transform the idea into something that will seem real, real, and concrete to others. Sometimes, anything we have to decide can only be decided through loneliness. Sometimes sadness seems to envelop us but we have to give it space because, one day, we could find out that it was the basis on which we built our life.
We all know: our experience can never be manipulated by anyone. Yet we do not act as if we know this truth. We are so hard engaged in trying to manipulate and control our lives that creativity becomes a game to which it is mandatory to win, to look for a shortcut to success because others have done it, metabolize emotions and uncertainties such as if these were linear paths.
We cannot always govern the system of our life. We cannot manage to control every possible outcome or aspect so as never to give in to the uncertainty and unpredictability linked to something beyond our understanding.
It is the foundation of the presence: showing ourselves as we are in this moment, and making sure we are satisfied with it.
However, we do not act always in a way that supports this lifestyle. We fill every minute with productivity tools and read lists of the 30 or more reasons why it is better to exclude natural human impulses. We often forget that we are as we are until we are no longer. We stay the same until we change. We can take small steps forward, adopting healthy habits and attitudes of life that encourage growth, but we cannot cheat on the timing. Time is something we often forget to resign ourselves to. Most of our unhappiness stems from the belief that our lives should be different from what they are.
We believe we are in control without feeling so directly and vulnerably tied to the results. Opportunities often don’t present themselves in the ways we hypothesize. We don’t need any further motivation or inspiration to create the life we want. We need to feel less ashamed of the idea that we are not doing our best. We must stop listening to people who are in completely different circumstances and times of life than ours, and who tell us that we are simply not doing enough.
We must let time do its duty. Considering barriers as lessons. Understanding that what we have or is happening now can become inspiration later. We have to realize that whoever we are now will become our identity in the future. Sometimes we are not yet the people we need to be to be able to contain all our desires. Sometimes we have to let ourselves evolve until we manage to bring out what we want.
Perhaps the problem is not motivation, but simply the fact that we keep trying to roll a rock up a mountain that the more we push and the higher it gets. There is something magical within us that works in ways that we cannot understand. And that we can’t manipulate. Lists are useless. We have no control over them. We simply have to let things run their course, take a momentary step back, stop mistreating us until we cancel, and let the gears turn instead because they will.
Someday, this moment will make sense. We must have faith in this. Let us grant ourselves permission to have faith.