A wise man by the name of Lenny Kravitz once said, “You’ve got to let love rule” and being the rule follower that I am, I follow this rule.
You see, from the time I can remember, I’ve always loved love. In fact, I would say that I am a creator of love. No no, this isn’t my version of “The Secret”, I mean like starting with Barbie and Ken. Love always prevailed no matter the scenario my little girl fantasy mind conjured up including;
War, as in Ken returning from war, often without a limb (I was a young girl during the 70’s – Viet Nam)
Temptation, in the form of another woman, Skipper
Poverty in the form of only having a Kleenex box for a bed
Vanity in the form a failed beauty shop visit at the hands of my 8-year old cosmetology skills.
Love Always Prevails.
I was thinking about love throughout the decades of my life
In the 1960’s we were told to smile on each other and love one another right now.
In the 1970’s we were told that love would keep us together
In the ’80s love was, well…endless
In the ’90s things continued to stay on the up and up because you loved me (Strangely past tense but what ev)
In the early 2000’s we even found love in a hopeless place.
In 2019, LinkedIn introduced additional “Reactions” including the heart indicating “Love to express deep resonance and support”
Scientists still have not 100% figured out love (who knows if they ever will!), but research has revealed that love triggers chemical reactions in the brain that make us feel a range of emotions and experience physical symptoms ranging from increased heartbeat to those traditional “butterflies” in the stomach.
As a corporate mindfulness facilitator, I invite people to explore the practice of mindfulness not only to help cultivate a greater sense of wellbeing including stress reduction, resilience and focus, I also help people learn to use the practice as a foundation for self-awareness which involves mindfulness of body sensations, feelings tones and thoughts and the way our minds construct meaning to really see how we are being in real-time.
Let’s use my friend Carol Campos as an example. Carol is a life coach who incorporates storytelling telling and metaphor with her messages about various subjects including finding our purpose, place and finding our unique gifts. Let’s say Carol posts something on LinkedIn, I read it and choose to practice self-awareness:
- I sense my physical sensation. Upon reading Carol’s post, I feel energy in the area of my heart and I smile.
- I sense the feeling tone is pleasant. There are only three feeling tones, pleasant, unpleasant and neutral.
- I observe my thoughts and think, “This is very interesting and I understand how this pertains to my life”
- I get in touch with what the thoughts means, “I love this”
What usually happens next is I comment and click on the heart reaction.
So here’s a question, how are you deciding when to use the “like” reaction and when to use “love” reaction? Do you actually think about it? Are you hesitant to use it?
I ask this question because somehow I believe that many of us withhold “love” in the context of work or anything business-related and yet in the next instant, we find ourselves eating a cookie or drinking a glass of wine, and unabashedly expressing, “OMG! I love this”.
As noted earlier, I always loved love and when I reflect of the best mentors I ever had in my life, they include two of my former managers, Linda McNairy and Dan Marks, I think of them not only with tremendous respect but also LOVE. (I love you, Dan and Linda, if you are reading this)
Can you imagine what it would be like if we were really able to sense into the love that we feel and actually express it? Can you imagine how expansive, inclusive, connecting, nurturing, compassionate, empowering, and inviting it would be?
We hear about so many people feeling so disconnected, stressed and marginalized at work. What would it feel like to show a little love?
I would like to express my LOVE for you, for your content that expands my heart, makes it smile, sing, sometimes cry…
A wise man, Lenny Kravitz once said,
Love transcends all space and time
And love can make a little child smile
Oh can’t you see
This won’t go wrong
But we got to be strong
We can’t do it alone
We got to let love rule