Leaving A Legacy

One of my dad’s final wishes just before he died, was to have a day at the seaside. So we did, we went to Mablethorpe. A few weeks later, he was carried out of his home for the last time to spend a mere 48 hours in a hospice before departing on his next adventure. When he left, he needed so little it hardly filled a small bag.

The years we spend furnishing the house, buying the clothes, having the latest gadgets, chasing the promotion, missing key moments in life to make the deadline ultimately all come down to this.

Things are of no value, you don’t need them in death. What really matters is the legacy you leave behind.

My dad’s legacy was strength, courage, kindness, unconditional, never-ending love and an ability to be himself unfettered by the world around him. We didn’t have a rich life measured by material wealth but we were rich beyond imagination in the ways that mattered.

If you are going to be late home from work tonight let it be because you are building a legacy not trying to get a promotion.

If you are worrying about money let it be because you need to keep your family safe and fed not because you need a larger house or a new gadget.

If you are worried about what others think of you – please don’t.

And on that note, I will end this article – be brave, be kind and be you.


Nik Davis
Nik Davis
NIK DAVIS is a business transformation expert and has spent 20 years in the corporate world. Her comfort zone is order, logic and applying analytical tools to solve complex problems. She is also a keen observer of life, a writer and eccentric. Nik has recently returned to the world of work after taking a career break to spend time with her family. Upon her return, she found that her perspective had changed, as had the world she was returning to. Nik decided to carve out a new place in that world and mould some of it to fit her too. Nik sees life from quirky angles, shaped by experiences and the vast amount of knowledge we now have access to. She likes to write about her experiences and observations. To ‘tell it how it is’ and to find a more authentic way to live, whether in our professional or personal lives. Nik often talks about finding ‘The Third Way’. It’s a philosophy about life, having a personal life as well as a career, making money and being socially generous, being logical and sensitive, living by the rules of a society but not being afraid to challenge them, inspiring others to feel good but not for your own ego, giving rather than taking. Nik wants to make a difference to this world by getting people to see things differently, to try new ways of working but most of all, to re-discover our true selves and therefore reach our true potential. Nik also has two other persona’s: nikdavis which is where Nik writes about her deeply personal experiences of life. Nik runs a facebook group alongside this website to create a safe place for people to discuss the topics that are raised in her blog. Nik’s second persona is Lilly Isabella and this is where she shares her passion of fashion and design.

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  1. If you are going to be late home from work tonight let it be because you are building a legacy not trying to get a promotion. I love this. What you build in life should be something that you leave for your children and grandchildren, a legacy of love, kindness and the time we gave them.

  2. You wrote pure truth with a very compelling message. Nothing you have purchased or wealth you have amassed will have any value when you pass away. Life is short. Take advantage of the important things as well as the real important people in your life. Even when you are alive you never know what catastrophic event will occur leaving you with nothing. Great article, Nik.

  3. Ah, Nik, this speaks so loudly to me! My dad worked hard, but he also always took time to be with us, his family. And his friends. He loved living, but he acquired things mostly to please my mother, who had grown up with so little and needed so much to be happy. But wasn’t. Not really. Not deep down. Always scared she’d lose what she had because her early years were full of losses.

    As a kid, I realized that my dad was the happier of the two, always smiling and enjoying everything we had. My mother? Not so much. Really sad.

    Fast-forward to today. I live happily — giddily, sometimes — in a tiny 525 s.f. cottage four houses up a hill from a beautiful bay in Massachusetts. Two small dogs. More than enough space for us. Direct water views. Friends to walk, talk, and play with. Work that means so much to me with how I can help and what I can learn. So far my health is great, my mind still works, and I have no debt. I live with such pleasure it’s almost unreal!

    Love your article, and I would wish that everyone could find a way to integrate real happiness in their lives beyond the things they buy.