by Joel Elveson, Columnist & Featured Contributor
[su_dropcap style=”flat”]W[/su_dropcap]E ALL LIKE TO THINK we know ourselves pretty well to the point we think we know how we would react in a particular situation and what we would do. The key word here is think as in we think we know. It takes a great deal of introspective thinking to fully understand yourself. With that in mind I am going to throw out some scenarios so you can test yourself on how well you know yourself. I will give a few choices for responses to each scenario and you can respond with your answers when you see the article published. Pease feel free to reject the choices while adding your own opinions or course of action.
Scenario #1 You have just been diagnosed with cancer (G-d Forbid) and were informed you have only a short time to live. Aside from seeking a second opinion (you would be foolish not to in that situation) would you simply break down and cry while asking G-d why you or would you try to make the most out of your life with the time you have left. If you are a person with a family how do you break this news to them while trying to maintain your composure?
Scenario #2 Out of the clear blue sky (as the saying goes) you find out either a missing relative is alive and well or somebody unexpectedly shows up at your door step claiming you are their father. Would you try to contact the relative with the idea of visiting or would you just be gratified to hear this person is alive and leave things at that? If this person claiming to be your son or daughter is not asking you for money but simply wants to have a relationship with you what would you do and in general what thoughts would be going through your mind?
Scenario #3 It has come to your attention that a Senior level Executive at the company you are working for is embezzling funds from the company 401K plan or misusing company money for their own personal uses. This Executive finds out you are aware of what he has been doing and offers you a bribe to keep quiet about the whole matter. Do you take the bribe or do you report him which could cost you your job and put you in the middle of a prolonged investigation for which you are needed as a witness. As this could also tarnish your reputation even though you have committed no crime or wrong doing the mere fact you were involved in this causes potential employers to avoid you where would you turn to for help?
Scenario #4 Congratulations! You have been elected to the Presidency of the United States of America! What priorities would you set for your administration and how would you go about getting them implemented if both The Congress and The Senate are dominated by members of the opposite political party as you and will do anything to block your initiatives so they can have their own agenda put into play? How would you assert yourself in a manner that will be enticing enough to make them want to be positive influence peddlers on your behalf?
Scenario #5 Your household is in a state of total disarray. The mortgage is behind and worse yet your children do not respect you as you are not their “real” father or mother and thusly are acting out. The school wants to report you to Children’s Protective Services as the kids have convinced their teacher that you are abusing them. How would you feel and what would you do to remedy both situations so that you come out of this ordeal unscathed? If CPS does show up and wants you to place the children into foster care would you comply or fight them for custody of your children in court?
You do not need me to tell you about all the unexpected challenges you will face during the course of a life time but you do need to know yourself inside and out (not think but know) as to what you would do if this or that should occur. There are bound to be moments of self-doubt when you discover that despite the fact you thought you knew yourself pretty well you are now facing a difficulty you never thought about with no self-developed answers forthcoming . What course of action will you follow?
The realization you will have to come to is that you did not in fact know enough about who you are or possess your own personal mental resource library to solve problems as they happen especially in those times when problems start accumulating. It is the realization that you can never be that self-assured where you feel that there is no solution you can’t come up with that would require you to reach out to others for support and/or help. “Sucking it up” by the way is a macho (male or female) response with no substance to it.