Her Thoughts
She sat there, wondering about the upcoming decision. ”I know his opinion on this one. Why would I expect anything different from him?” The petite woman sighed and thought about their polarity. Over the years, as she became increasingly acquainted with him, she realized what a kind and thoughtful person he was. His brilliance was a given, but the treat was experiencing his generosity. All of those kids he sired, God Bless his wife, and yet he had an abundance of love for all of them.
Knowing his kindness, she could not comprehend his desire for restraint. She fought so hard for the underdog and vowed to continue to do this for as long as she lived. Women, Black, LGBTQ, and other minorities required their assistance. Ever so often, when she raised the issue with him, he would smile. She could always predict his response. He reminded her that they both wanted equal opportunity for all, but they viewed the journey differently.
As she prepared for their next hearing, she thought about how blessed she was for him to be an integral part of her life. Thirty years earlier, she would have scoffed at the idea of befriending the likes of him. Now, as she gathered up her papers, getting ready to see him and their colleagues, an amused twinkle entered her eyes, recognizing that she could not imagine this life without him.
His Thoughts
As much as he sees the world through a different lens, his admiration for this woman so small in stature but enormous in spirit goes beyond words.
He watches her enter the room and looks at her affectionately. He rolls his eyes and winks at her. Yes, he knows exactly how she will see this next matter. Once in a while, when they discuss their views, he reminds her that he is not immune to the plight of the people for whom they decide. Except for a few issues, however, he is steadfast in adhering to his position. He chastens her around the point that it is not up to them to change this. Ferociously, she disagrees, and their argument becomes heated. As they spar, he is incensed, and by the look in her eyes, she is equally so. Eventually, one of them puts out their arms. As much as he sees the world through a different lens, his admiration for this woman so small in stature but enormous in spirit goes beyond words. He smiles inwardly and reflects on how the rest of the argument usually unfolds. After much exhaustion, one puts out their arms, and he wraps his arms around her. As he discussed with his wife, he could never imagine holding someone so opposite of him in such high regard.
Their Thoughts
They stare at each other across the room. She gestures about a phone call. He nods in the affirmative knowing what she means. This evening, they and their spouses will meet for dinner, taking great delight in being in each others’ company. Any discussion of politics will be null.
My Thoughts
Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg was a remarkable woman, legendary in her work ethic, and adamant in her beliefs. Justice Anton Scalia, many would agree, was equally talented and dedicated to his positions. Although opposed to one another in most opinions, these icons were able to put aside politics. Consequently, their deep and long-term friendship endured despite their differences. I imagine they are smiling as they are now reunited, and my guess is they can agree on at least one thing. What is that, you might ask? “My friend, what a pleasure it is to see you again finally.”
I believe the Justices’ friendship is exemplary.
In these increasingly hyper-partisan times about to be put on steroids, I can only hope that we could stop the mudslinging and just learn to “agree to disagree” or is that “just wishful thinking?”
Your Thoughts
I invite you to share your thoughts sans political statements. If you can, please offer some clues on how you will navigate these challenging days ahead as they become even more inflammatory.
I loved listening to their conversations. It was like a symphony.
I think we need to learn a lesson from them. We don’t always have to agree to be respectful. We have different ideas and different ideologies. The way we advance is to learn from one another, not knock others down.
For example, if I read a post online and it agrees with what I say, I smile. I may not always comment, but a little inner part of me rejoices. If I read a post online and it is against something I believe it, I cringe or get angry. I may not always comment, but a little inner part of me rejects the notion. This is human nature, not just JoAnna nature.
But its my responsibility to sit with any information I read (no matter what I feel about it) and reflect on it. It is not my responsibility to project my opinions onto anyone else.
We are a flawed species but one that has much potential. By joining in with negative banter and insults, there can be no progress. And that has been what our political front has thrived on for as long as I’ve been alive. The only way forward is to rise above that.
Thank you Joanna! I wrote this article because I thought if two very public ideological opposites could do it, why can’t we? I have a friend with whom we do not see eye-to-eye on many issues. She read the article and liked it. We took a walk yesterday observing the beauty offered to us during New England autumn. We enjoyed each other’s company as our husbands watched football. Thankfully, politics was off the table. I appreciate you commenting.💖
Oh my goodness, Darlene, I just finished pouring over the comments on Linkedin. What a rich conversation you’ve ignited! THIS is why we write! To invite people to think and feel deeply about the human condition. You clearly accomplished that goal! Bravo!
Thank you for your kind thoughts Kimberly! Yes, I agree! Writing serves many goals but one is hopefully serving others by encouraging them to think about the message. I appreciate you reading and offering such lovely commentary.
Exquisite writing Darlene.
What an exemplary validation that in spite of differences, humanity is first. That dignity can be displayed is truly an example for others to learn from here. Laws are imposed and justification is always questionable. We trust the ones in these positions are highly skilled to make sure it is so. It’s no easy task. To sit on the side of justice one needs to have an open mind… and I hope keep the rights of humanity front and centre. Personal opinions and beliefs are forever being challenged here. Not all who sit on the bench are able to do this well. I’ll leave it at that.
Inflammation needs soothing. We all need to pull out our first aid kits and apply the same composition of humanity and the right to dignity. If it were up to me…I’d be issuing a New and improved birth certificate that would state this very clearly. I would have it repeated as much as I can in all areas of life..online advertising space, billboards, the classroom, workplaces, government literature….anywhere and everywhere.
As for me… I do as much as I can to make it known… people may get sick of it but well, I’d rather that then their attention to slander. Whose going to slander the right to dignity😝? Lol
Thank you for this great article and provoking the follow up with action!
Oh dear Paula, thank you for your splendid comment. Your gift of prose and creativity have no bounds as I have witnessed in your prerennial, visual storytelling. I appreciate you reading and providing such a rich comment. Please keep on creating because the world needs your humanity. I appreciate this my friend!
Thank you so much for this appreciation Darlene. You add value to the days of many my lady! Gratitude to you!