Before you say it, just stop. Before you say “but he/she was so successful”, just stop. Before you say “I wish I would have known”, just stop. Before you say “I wonder if there were signs”, just stop. Before you say “but they seemed so happy”, just stop. Just stop all of it.
Why are we so surprised that depression is on the rise when we are readily bombarded with the terrors of the world around us with no balance of anything positive. Why should a person talk about it only to be told that it’s their perception of the world and they should just snap out of it and let it go?
Yes, a person can be successful and still be depressed. As a matter of fact it stumps them too. Yes, you knew, you knew when you tried to cheer them up when they were down and didn’t understand why that small gesture didn’t ease their internal pain. Then you walked away. Yes, there are signs, plenty of them, but were you paying attention enough to the others around you to realize the pain they were in? Yes, they can seem like the happiest person in the room because they have learned that sometimes their pain can be eased by making others happy. Yes, when you tried to make them happy it made them sad and they retreated. They disappeared. They tried to figure out a way to make themselves happy.
It is never just one thing, it’s a series of events. Why are we so surprised that depression is on the rise when we are readily bombarded with the terrors of the world around us with no balance of anything positive. Why should a person talk about it only to be told that it’s their perception of the world and they should just snap out of it and let it go? That as much as they see the people hurting around them and as much as they want to see things get better, you are telling them to just live with it. That the bad will continue and you, as a member of society can’t change things to the positive. Please tell me again why you are surprised? When they try to make things better and you tell them the problem is not theirs to worry about and to just forget about it but no one steps up to claim ownership of the problem. Please tell me again why you are surprised that they fall into a deep despair of the human condition.
Please, we have ignored this long enough, isn’t it time that we realize that if we listened to those bold enough to speak of the evils that are plaguing our society and ask how we can join together to make our world a better place that we potentially could make a difference, save a life, make our world more of a place that people thrive in instead of survive in. Please don’t call them mentally weak. They are stronger than you could ever imagine. That is how “you” cope with the mentally ill but remember, many of them were mentally healthy at one time, so it could happen to you too. So please, just stop, just stop blaming the person, ignoring the signs, making it taboo to talk about, shuffling it under the rug as if the problem will go away on its own. It won’t. So please, just stop.