Judging Others

We each live in an individual environment, that could be seen only from our point of view. No two people can see the same thing when they look at it from different angles and no two people could be on the same angle with each other unless they are one and the same.

For that reason, in my opinion, nobody has the right to judge anyone according to their actions, as we can never really know what caused it, and what is happening in their world.

Sometimes, it feels so easy making negative comments or guesses about a person or a situation, without having all the facts. Talking behind others’ backs, or even making up things to add to the already boiling pot. But only after being in a similar or same situation that you understand it is unfair. This could happen to anyone, and even to you one day.

Nothing is forever, and you can never take for granted anything you have because everything could change, just like that, and you could find yourself in a perfect storm.  And then you start to see clearer and start to understand what that person, you have made assumptions about at the time, was feeling and went through. That is why they say that you can appreciate one’s actions only if you walk in their shoes.

Life is very complicated with so much going on around us. We all need love. We all need to feel accepted. We all need to leave our judgments behind. Our World needs love and healing.

Not gossip and backstabbing. Just think twice before making a negative comment for someone, and put yourself in their place. How would you feel? And go from there…

Love, understanding, acceptance, and peace. This is all we need. Let us give them to each other. Please…


Ipek Williamson
Ipek Williamson
The person that I am today is the product of my past experience as an Executive Assistant at many companies' top-level management for more than 20 years. Also, the fruit of accumulated life experiences as a mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend, and colleague. I am an avid reader and a lifelong learner. All the knowledge and wisdom I have accumulated over the years turned me into an active "Listener" with an ear for anyone who needs to be heard, a blog writer with close to 200 articles so far, and a communication expert who aims to help anyone and any relationship that needs healing and improvement. Especially the relationship with one's self. Blog posts that I write are mainly about new subjects that I stumble upon and feel like worth sharing with my followers. Or sometimes my self-talk on topics that are important to me and that deserves further exploration. Life takes us to places that we don't expect to end up, but always with a purpose. I was born in Istanbul, Turkey where I lived more than half of my life. But circumstances brought me to Ontario, Canada more than a decade ago. To find my new life, new family, new friends, new environment. Last few years, I have made my main goal to make my life better, to become happier and healthier. That goal triggered a desire to learn and share anything and everything that helps to make people happy. Life is amazing and we all deserve to live it to the fullest. That's why here I am, to touch the lives of as many people as possible, one beautiful soul at a time, and help them to become the best version of themselves.


  1. Well said, and until you walk in someone’s shoes, we should refrain from judgment. I raised my kids to look at the whole picture when things seemed wrong to them. Look outside the box I would always say. There are three sides to a story, your side, their side, and the truth. Try finding the Truth.

    • Dear Lynn, I must say your kids are quite lucky to have a mother like you. God gave most of us the ability to have kids but unfortunately, not all of us turn out to be great parents. Your comment right there shows that you are one of the good ones. Cherish yourself. Thank you so much for your comment.