It is “You”, not “Them” – and You Can Fix It

Have you ever heard of the ancient Hawaiian healing system Ho’oponopono? It is essentially a process of letting go of toxic energies within you to allow the impact of divine thoughts, words, deeds, and actions.

I have found out about this phenomenon through a newspaper article a few years ago. I was quite intrigued by it and kept reading, started practicing.

This way of thinking says that everything you see, everything you hear, every person you meet are the experiences happening in your mind. You only think it’s them not you, and you think that none of the things happening around you is your responsibility. In fact, it’s quite the opposite: you are responsible for everything you think, and everything that comes to your attention. If you watch the news, everything you hear on the news is your responsibility. That sounds harsh, but it means that you are also able to clear it, clean it, and through forgiveness change it.

Accordingly, it is about rectifying an error in your thoughts. According to the ancient Hawaiians, the error arises from thoughts that are tainted by painful memories of the past. These thoughts come up in our lives as judgments, projections, anger, or negative self-talk. And when you practice this method, you bring mindfulness to your thought process, and you are also taking responsibility for everything that you experience.

The premise of Ho’oponopono is that if you recognize and rectify the origin of that thought in yourself, then you can begin healing yourself, others, and the world at the same time. You do this from a place of love, by apologizing and asking for forgiveness.

I know it is hard to understand and accept this, and I would like to encourage you to read more about it or watch videos on YouTube, especially the one that contains a short interview with Dr. Hew Len, the Hawaiian therapist who made this a worldwide known and practiced phenomenon. That would help you to understand the whole concept better.

Practicing Ho’oponopono is simple. For anything that bothers you today, or in the past, just think about it and say this mantra as many times as you can, all day long and whenever you like: “I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you”. In this way, you accept your responsibility for everything that happened or happening around you, ask for forgiveness, show your love and your gratitude, and then, let it all go.

I try to say this mantra many times during the day, but especially at night, before going to sleep, I repeat it non-stop, until I fall asleep. It makes me feel good. I hope it will make you feel the same way.


Ipek Williamson
Ipek Williamson
The knowledge and wisdom, that I’ve accumulated, transformed me into; an Insight Coach, a Blogger, and an Active “Listener” with an ear for anyone who needs to be heard, passion to help, anyone, and any relationship that needs healing and improvement. Especially the relationship with ones’ self. The person that I am today is also the product of my 20 years of experience as an Executive Assistant for the top managers of several companies. I am the culmination of life experiences as a mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend, and colleague. I am also an avid reader and a lifelong learner. Life takes us to places that we don’t expect to end up, but always with a purpose. Last few years, I have made my goal to make my life better, to become happier and healthier. That goal triggered a desire to learn and share anything and everything that helps to make others happy too. Life is beautiful, and we all deserve to live it to the fullest, that’s why I’m here, to touch the lives of as many people as possible, one beautiful soul at a time, and help them to become the best version of themselves

SOLD OUT! JOIN OUR WAITING LIST! It's not a virtual event. It's not a conference. It's not a seminar, a meeting, or a symposium. It's not about attracting a big crowd. It's not about making a profit, but rather about making a real difference. LEARN MORE HERE



  1. Great post. I have read about this program. Letting things go at the end of the day is a powerful way to avoid stressing over the baggage we often refuse to leave behind. To paraphrase a statement I heard years ago – You cannot live the life intended for you if you keep holding on the life you have. Your post reminds me of the song from the Disney movie Frozen – Let it Go.

    • Wow, beautiful statement, Frank. Thank you for sharing. And the song from Frozen is very appropriate too. Ho’oponopono not only aims for us to let go of our experiences from this lifetime, but also the data that’s accumulated on us as a heavy burden for generations. It’s quite profound and very effective in cooperating with our inner child and train her/him to let go. Thanks again for your time and comment. I very much appreciate it.

    • Dear Charlotte,

      If we can help one person to think more positively every day, considering what you’ve explained with your comment here, how would the world look like even in a few months? We are butterflies, we are flapping our wings faster and faster and the world is transforming. Thank you for your comment. I always appreciate what you contribute to my posts.