Is This Narcissism Pandemic Really New?

Many people have been grieving the elderly who were sadly lost to COVID-19. This tragedy is accompanied by some nostalgia for the old generations and their values which I can fully understand and respect.

Interestingly, I would argue the huge lack of morals we are witnessing in this era is a generational problem. I would rather say the non-principled and character-disturbed folks (including the narcissists) have been present in abundance from the very beginning of the human history where the Alpha — the most violent individuals — took advantage of this planet resources, and then dared reclaim the ownership, where those bloody emperors invaded earth to show their power killing millions of human beings.

What do you think the origin of the countries is? Nothing but an evolution of the tribes. Why were the tribes created at all?

To protect the exploited land and kill any individual who could even think of approaching the territory and share the land’s gifts. Was this principled? Hell no!

More to the point, in every single generation, there were some enlightened human beings who were the change-makers, and fortunate enough to have their voice heard by thousands — if not millions of kind-hearted individuals eagerly waiting for some moral authority to inspire them; creating, thus, a mass mobilization for the cause no matter what it is.

You only need to think of any legitimate fight in our species’ history, and you will figure out that there has always been a huge and ugly resistance — ironically supporting the violation of so many universal correct principles: the human dignity, the fairness, the respect, etc…

Who were those people who resisted any noble cause? The character-disturbed individuals who are so disconnected from their conscience… They are anything but a new epidemy. They were just not enabled by the society as they are nowadays… With the social media expansion, they, unfortunately, became way more normalized and empowered… Who do you think created them in the first place? The unhealthy part of the previous generation — which was, itself, created by the dysfunctional family system of the one before, and so on…

What I am trying to say is that the lack of principles and the sick ego’s numerous manifestations is as old as mankind’s existence on earth, that our feeling it is becoming a pandemic in the new generations is simply explained by the fact that we have given them the permission as well as the tools…

Again, I can understand this nostalgia! We love to think of the elderly as the symbol of maturity and wisdom we are missing in a world ruled by superficial narcissists. But, what does it mean to be mature? Does it go hand-in-hand with our biological age?

As far as I am concerned, I like to consider it as a synonym of resilience instead of adulthood:

Maturity is the balance between courage and consideration. If a person can express his feelings and convictions with courage balanced with consideration for the feelings and convictions of another person, he is mature, particularly if the issue is very important to both parties.

~Stephen Covey

What does it take? Making use of one of our human incredible endowments: self-awareness, and opening our heart to a spiritual awakening which would drastically transform our life and might happen even at 25.

What about wisdom? Is it truly correlated to how many years and experiences we have had during our existence on this planet? Probably not. How come? Adulthood will not be accompanied by wisdom — at least not the delusional promoted one — if we are a character-disordered person in any case.

Psychologically speaking, those “adults” emotional growth stopped at the childhood; giving birth to all the aggressive behavior — very subtle in my cases like for the Covert Narcissists — and emotional abuse they are responsible for even when their biological age reaches the adulthood… This is exactly why I care so much about a global awareness around the topic.

If we want to give ourselves a real chance to fix this superficial, selfish, and immoral world we are living in and save the future generations, we need to stop creating and enabling narcissists in the first place…

With love, Myriam


Myriam Ben Salem
Myriam Ben Salem
I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer. Writing has been my very favorite means to educate my audience, captivate their attention, talk to their emotions, and make them relate and take action. I have been honored by working as a columnist for BIZCATALYST 360°, an Award-Winning life, culture, and biz new media digest, serving as the global hub for enhanced performance and well-being, during 2020. Also, I am a contributing author in Mayhem to Miracles: True Stories of Courage, Triumph, and Peace. I am so in love with writing that I have a peaceful smile drawn on my face whenever I start visualizing the books I will be writing for whoever will be tempted to discover an inclusive philosophy breaking with all the stigmas! I was born in Tunisia, a small country in North Africa. I did pretty much everything earlier than the average: walking, talking, singing, dancing. Promoted throughout my entire education, I was also the leader of every end-of-year party. At some point, after working several years for multinational companies as an engineer, team leader, project coordinator, and product owner while always being a top performer, I figured out I was feeling miserable despite the 'perfect external image'. That marked the starting point of an existential crisis followed by an episode that triggered my re-birth and the beginning of the most rewarding adventure of my whole existence: re-writing my subconscious program and reconnecting with my true self. I was saved at the last moment through an out-of-body experience making me see all the lies, realize this gigantic Universe was not revolving around me. Most importantly, I was able to visualize I was here to leave a legacy like all of you, no matter how big or small! The butterfly took time to emerge though. Today, I identify myself as a Universal Citizen. Like-minded and light-hearted people are what I call home. I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer, and was granted the edutainer qualifier: a combination between education and entertainment! I educate on the importance of healing unsuspected traumas, seeing our limiting beliefs and biases with honest lenses, finding one's purpose and a principled mission that goes beyond the self, and unleashing the hidden potential so that to leave our legacy for the generations unborn. I have been using a panoply of means that could vary from explicit ones such as mentorship, speaking, and writing, a skill that emerged naturally during my self-actualization process to implicit mediums like storytelling, how I daily show up in the world and model servant leadership! Writing is my very favorite and most preferred tool deployed for my mission. The topics I explore are in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, epigenetics, and pretty much any topic involving human behavior. Common denominator? The quality of the subconscious program. You may have a look at some of my works published on my website; Set Yourself Free.

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