Is This Narcissism Pandemic Really New?

Many people have been grieving the elderly who were sadly lost to COVID-19. This tragedy is accompanied by some nostalgia for the old generations and their values which I can fully understand and respect.

Interestingly, I would argue the huge lack of morals we are witnessing in this era is a generational problem. I would rather say the non-principled and character-disturbed folks (including the narcissists) have been present in abundance from the very beginning of the human history where the Alpha — the most violent individuals — took advantage of this planet resources, and then dared reclaim the ownership, where those bloody emperors invaded earth to show their power killing millions of human beings.

What do you think the origin of the countries is? Nothing but an evolution of the tribes. Why were the tribes created at all?

To protect the exploited land and kill any individual who could even think of approaching the territory and share the land’s gifts. Was this principled? Hell no!

More to the point, in every single generation, there were some enlightened human beings who were the change-makers, and fortunate enough to have their voice heard by thousands — if not millions of kind-hearted individuals eagerly waiting for some moral authority to inspire them; creating, thus, a mass mobilization for the cause no matter what it is.

You only need to think of any legitimate fight in our species’ history, and you will figure out that there has always been a huge and ugly resistance — ironically supporting the violation of so many universal correct principles: the human dignity, the fairness, the respect, etc…

Who were those people who resisted any noble cause? The character-disturbed individuals who are so disconnected from their conscience… They are anything but a new epidemy. They were just not enabled by the society as they are nowadays… With the social media expansion, they, unfortunately, became way more normalized and empowered… Who do you think created them in the first place? The unhealthy part of the previous generation — which was, itself, created by the dysfunctional family system of the one before, and so on…

What I am trying to say is that the lack of principles and the sick ego’s numerous manifestations is as old as mankind’s existence on earth, that our feeling it is becoming a pandemic in the new generations is simply explained by the fact that we have given them the permission as well as the tools…

Again, I can understand this nostalgia! We love to think of the elderly as the symbol of maturity and wisdom we are missing in a world ruled by superficial narcissists. But, what does it mean to be mature? Does it go hand-in-hand with our biological age?

As far as I am concerned, I like to consider it as a synonym of resilience instead of adulthood:

Maturity is the balance between courage and consideration. If a person can express his feelings and convictions with courage balanced with consideration for the feelings and convictions of another person, he is mature, particularly if the issue is very important to both parties.

~Stephen Covey

What does it take? Making use of one of our human incredible endowments: self-awareness, and opening our heart to a spiritual awakening which would drastically transform our life and might happen even at 25.

What about wisdom? Is it truly correlated to how many years and experiences we have had during our existence on this planet? Probably not. How come? Adulthood will not be accompanied by wisdom — at least not the delusional promoted one — if we are a character-disordered person in any case.

Psychologically speaking, those “adults” emotional growth stopped at the childhood; giving birth to all the aggressive behavior — very subtle in my cases like for the Covert Narcissists — and emotional abuse they are responsible for even when their biological age reaches the adulthood… This is exactly why I care so much about a global awareness around the topic.

If we want to give ourselves a real chance to fix this superficial, selfish, and immoral world we are living in and save the future generations, we need to stop creating and enabling narcissists in the first place…

With love, Myriam

Myriam Ben Salem
Myriam Ben Salem was born in Tunisia, a small country in North Africa. Myriam did pretty much everything earlier than the average: walking, talking, singing, dancing. Promoted throughout her entire education, Myriam was also the leader of every end-of-year party. Myriam is a mentor with a deep passion for helping others grow and find their own internal truths to reframe their lives. She spent 9 years working at a high level of consultancy and management in the Information Technology, Human Resources, and Research sectors, only to realize that perfectionism and pressure were damaging herself and those around her. After three burnouts and an existential crisis, she dramatically embarked on a painful journey to reinvent herself from within. Now she guides organizations as well as people in redefining the most integral aspects of internal value, truth, and care, promoting a daring greatly culture and re-humanizing their personal life through stories, play, laughter, and thought-provoking discussions to create real and permanent change. Myriam is deeply passionate about everything life has to offer. She educates through any possible means including writing – a discovered skill emerging naturally during the transformational journey -- on the importance of reconnecting with our common birth’s gifts making of all of us seeds of greatness only numbed by the life-time conditioning. She is guided by the fundamental universal correct principles or what is also known as our spirit, our conscience and the manifestation of our 4th and most important form of intelligence: the spiritual one! Reconnecting with her principles Center was what truly helped her on her path of moving from ego to self-love, in promoting continuous learning, and acquiring the humility to discover a calling: a higher mission than her small self. She is described as vivacious, confident, compassionate, authentic, funny, warrior, vulnerable, grateful, bold, mature, showing integrity with an abundance mentality, and always seeking the best way forward for herself and every person she interacts with.