Is Thank You Now Out of Date?

As relationships are at the heart of what I do, I love watching others relate to each other, how they open themselves up, how they are listened to, or not, where their attention is focussed, and so on, but above all where are they making a difference.

Today I observed a real moment of joy, for both the giver and the receiver.  The receiver was collecting for a well-known charity, the giver was willing to give some money.  What the giver added was to thank the person for collecting on behalf of the charity and secondly to say that they were appreciated.

The look on the face of the collector was priceless, I am not sure what else she could have been given that would have given her a bigger smile.

Her response…she looked the giver in the eye, touched her heart with her hand, smiled brightly and said thank you.

When did you last say thank you or that you appreciated someone for what they were doing?


Colin D. Smith
Colin D. Smith
COLIN is ‘The Listener’, a listening skills specialist and the ‘go-to’ person for individuals and teams who want to be heard, think for themselves, and transform their business and personal relationships through active listening. Colin has that innate ability to actively listen to people. He works with management, project and creative teams, facilitating the development and improvement of their listening and thinking skills. Thereby equipping them to more effectively meet their business, relationship and service challenges. He also works privately with individuals, enabling them to feel heard and valued, to think more clearly for themselves, articulate their creative ideas, address their personal concerns, and achieve their personal and professional goals. Colin has had a varied and successful career in consultancy, business development, IT and customer support, across many sectors, including finance, motor, retail and the NHS. In looking back he realises that much of his success was due to his listening and connecting abilities. His inquisitive and curious mind also enables him to explore, with others, unusual, thought-provoking, yet grounded, observations and alternative approaches to business, people, systems, and change. To make things happen, and to take ideas and thinking further, he connects his Clients with his trusted network of entrepreneurs, consultants, thought leaders, free thinkers, coaches and change makers.

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  1. COLIN – THANK YOU MOST KINDLY for reminding us of the power of these two meaningful words.

    There’s no truer form of acceptance than saying “thank you.”

    Being thankful—and truly meaning it—becomes a shift in energy that attracts new and exciting things into our lives because it signals that we’re ready to receive them. Gratitude opens up little doors in our heart that we have previously kept locked. And when these little doors unlock and open, it’s possible for us to pick and choose our own adventure. It’s possible to start over. It’s possible to pursue any direction our heart can imagine.

    “Thank you” is the key to unlocking our true potential. All we have to do is recognize that we’ve had the power within us all the time.

    • Thank you Larry for sharing. I agree, in fact, I was talking to someone this morning about this, in a coffee shop. If I am kind to the Barista, smile, say please and thank you, appreciate the quality of their coffee-making skills, they are happy, (this is rare for them by the way, most people do not even acknowledge them), they will be happier to the next person they speak to…also, anyone nearby who hears it, feels the same feeling the Barista is feeling, mirror neurons and all that, so they feel better, and in turn they will be kinder to their next person and so on. One person can make a big impact. Colin

  2. Thank you for this beautiful reminder to be grateful every single day for our lives, for the people we encounter, for the beauty of nature, for opportunities to be of love and service, Colin! Gratitude fills my soul as I know not to take anything for granted, to not sweat the small stuff-in fact, to appreciate the small stuff-even the gliches, challenges, curve balls of life because these all mean that I’m ALIVE to experience them! What a gift each moment of our lives truly is! As Albert Einstein stated it: “There are only two ways to live your life. Live as though nothing is a miracle or live as though everything is a miracle.” That second pathway flows with gratitude. Beautiful post!

  3. Thank you for this Colin. There exists a simple Universal Law that stipulates, “the more one expresses gratitude, the more one will be given for which to be grateful.” I don’t believe expressing gratitude or simply saying thank you is out of date as much as it is out of practice. Too many take most things for granted as if they are somehow entitled. While I do believe we are all entitled to the goodness of life as a result of being on this gorgeous planet, it is the sense of entitlement expressed as if one is better than another with which I take issue.

    Be grateful for all you have, all you are and the unlimited potential that resides in each one of us to experience all we desire. I am grateful to you Colin for bringing this important topic to light. I will conclude with a simple, “Thank you.”

    • Thank you Jim. I agree with you that, “Thank you” is out of practice. What I would add to what you have said are two things. One, what is my intention in saying thank you. The second, what is my state when I am saying thank you.

      My intention needs to come from a place of appreciation for what I have just received, be that a gift, a compliment, or an action such a someone giving way. If it is appreciated by me, the receiver of my thank you will hear and feel it differently to if I am just saying thank you.

      My state is being fully present to the person giving me something when I say thank you. Again the receiver will hear and feel the difference.

      So the more we are present, the more we appreciate, the more deeply felt our “thank you” will be.


      • Thank you Colin for bringing clarity to my post. When I suggest anyone expresses gratitude it is always to be heart-felt and Soul driven, otherwise it is just words that float off into the nothingness from which they arose. Jim

        • So true. As a veteran of the Indian Navy, you will know first hand the impact of ‘thank you’ as well as being kind, thoughtful and caring for each other. We need to know someone or many someones have our back, just as they will know we have theirs. In close proximity, all of our strengths and weaknesses are on show and a thank you and acts of appreciation make a huge difference to the overall well being of the team. Thank you for your contribution.

  4. Every day in every way, Colin! I even wrote a post a while back entitled “Every Day Should be Gratiday!


    I’ve always known I was lucky, being created by two folks I’ve never known, adopted by two others who loved and cared for me, and always having enough of what I needed (although that knowledge came as I got old enough to figure it out), etc.

    And every day that I get up, see the sun (or the clouds), drink my coffee, play with my small dogs, meet amazing people on line and in person, realize I’m still alive and healthy … I’m grateful to whoever is organizing my life!

    And among the most wonderful words surely are “thank you,” which don’t get said nearly often enough.

    So thank you for your post, Colin! Let’s hope it inspires others to thank at least one person Every. Single. Day.

    • How lovely Susan, to feel that way every day. When we step out and look around, there is so, so much to be grateful for, to appreciate and to offer our thanks. There is something, hey many things, about this life we have now, this moment, unfolding in front of us. Feels like quite a journey you have been on, and for you to be able to look back on it and say thank you, tells me lots about you and how you make sense of the world. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Susan and for being you.