Is Having an Optimistic Outlook During the COVID-19 Crisis Becoming an Emotionless Attribute?

I reach the supermarket at around 11 am. The queue is already huge! What were you thinking, silly Myriam 😊 It’s a day before the 24/7 lockdown! Is this pissing me off? Excellent question!

Of whom exactly? Of my government for taking serious measures against the pandemic to protect lives? Or of the supermarket for beautifully respecting the new preventive rules? Or of people in the queue who came to buy groceries for themselves & their families, and happened to be in front of me in the queue? Or of myself for not coming earlier? Or of the Corona Virus: the source of those chaotic times we’re experiencing — even though this remains to be proven? We will come back to the last question later!

I’m guessing you got my point. None of those questions could be considered as a valid excuse if we can be self-aware. More to the point, if we’re not trapped in our anxious mind — aka our invasive subconscious program.

To come back to the queue, there is a heterosexual couple in front of me and a guy behind me. The woman looks at me and, noticing I’m observing (I just love doing it in any context) the queue, starts complaining. I smile to her before adding “Don’t you worry; I have the feeling it will be quick! You’ll see!”. She seems confused, but somehow a bit reassured. Yasss!  The guy behind me asks me a question in Italian. I recognize the language; still, I don’t get the request. Luckily, he can speak french! He wants to know whether this supermarket would be closing its doors during the lockdown. At the same time, he is expressing how annoying it would be since this is the only one where he can find his Italian food.

“I’m sorry, but I have no clue about the supermarket plan! Regarding your food, imagine there were no single place selling it? How would you feel?”

Him: Too sad, I guess?

“Now, think about the chance you currently have to buy your needs for the six coming months. How do you feel?

Him: (A moment of silence) Lucky? Definitely better…

You’ve just started developing an incredible virtue we call ; congratulations!

We have a lovely discussion around my visit to Italy a few years ago, and then I feel like singing. The woman in front of the couple turns to me with a surprised — even a bit judgemental facial expression. I wave to her with a welcoming smile. She seems embarrassed and waves back!

We’re finally inside. Oops! Another queue… The same woman loses her cool: “This can’t be happening! Who’s the genius who decided such a stupid layout?” I go to her direction and say with a friendly tone putting an arm on her shoulder: “You should have asked me for another song; next time, don’t be shy. She takes a moment before realizing it was a joke and starts laughing. I even get a hug!

When inside, I am trying my best to be as quick as possible — wearing my usual peaceful smile, knowing the number of people waiting for their turn. There is a woman. She asks me about the milk. We meet again in 3 other shelves and smile at each other. The 5th and last time, I just can’t help but tell her “If we had a previous appointment in this big supermarket, we probably would have missed each other” before starting giggling. Since it’s contagious, she does the same and then thanks me so warmly before adding: “It has been a while I didn’t laugh!”. What a blast…

I am in front of my car looking for my keys. They aren’t anywhere. I go back to the supermarket, look for the ‘lost stuff department’. They assure me not receiving any keys and advise that I look myself on all the shelves I visited. I ask every responsible I met earlier. One of the security guys checks with me whether I found them; to which I answer with a large smile: “Nothing so far; guess I’m spending the night here!”. He can’t believe his ears and eyes, and adds: “How can you even smile in such circumstances?!”

“If I get stressed out and lose my nerve, will I miraculously find my keys?”

Him: I don’t think so…

“So why not laughing at myself then!”

He smiles, admits it’s making perfect sense and wishes me the best of luck before joining his colleagues.

A few minutes later, I receive a call from the ‘lost stuff department’. I run to its direction, enters there applauding and celebrating them! They laugh like kids after waking up from their shock. Their manager accompanies me and his last words are: “Do you wanna do us a favor and lose something every time you visit? You’ve just made our day!”

Moral of the story: Am I a super woman? Definitely not! I am only a ‘human guinea pig’, the product of a painful transformational adventure to which I committed because I had no choice anyway… It was either literally reinventing myself from within through re-writing my program or dying…

Now, does keeping a positive outlook despite the crisis mean being insensitive about what’s happening? Absolutely not… It only means I am trying my best to inspire and uplift people I am interacting with as much as I can, to implicitly guide them to get outside of their anxious mind, particularly in the current circumstances involving the immunity.

Why is that relevant at all? Well, simply because according to some very serious studies, continuous stress is, unfortunately, shutting down the immune system. How come? Fear of the COVID-19 is perceived as a threat.

When the consciousness of protection is required, then the biology will adapt to a protection response: The “fight-or-flight — the adrenal system or mechanism. The same one triggered when running away from a real external danger: a tiger attacking us for instance. On what do you think our energy should be focused? Digesting a food? Fighting a bacterial infection? Hell no! Arms and legs. I need my muscles to escape. The state of fear releases stress hormones, such as Cortisol. Its function is to shut down anything in the body that’s using energy and not supporting the escape from the tiger: the visceral functions of the body, the gut whose fonction is growth and maintenance of the body. Stress is the major cause of the immune system dysfunction. It shuts down the immune system to conserve energy.

~ Dr. Bruce Lipton

By keeping my positive outlook, I am trying to decrease people’s stress levels and contribute to saving their lives. It is important to understand that one of the most amazing outcomes of the transformational journey is acquiring the highest level of empathy, since it’s a crucial component of developing the emotional intelligence fueled by coming back to our original Center we were granted at our conception — the Principles.

What many people don’t know about me, though, is that, in spite of being joyful and positive, I probably cry way more than they do; almost every day. My heart is, of course, bleeding for all the hurt caused by this pandemic. But, I have been crying way before this crisis.

People were dying every day before the Corona Virus: from hunger, cold, giving birth, all kinds of diseases. I’ve been crying the cruel unfairness of the world: extreme poverty, homelessness, wars and people escaping from their homeland to save their lives and find themselves in some refugees camps lacking the basics of human dignity…

I need to admit to you folks I’m truly happy and enthusiastic about this COVID-19! Nobody deserves death or to suffer this way, but a global awakening comes at a price, unfortunately… Yes, it is way harsher than what we could ever have imagined, but the world is extremely imbalanced as well! It’s just correlated…

I hope we will all start pondering, reviewing our distorted beings making our lives and the world that imbalanced in the first place… The universe is sending a coded message. Hope everybody will open their heart and listen to it… Hoping is all that I can control anyway.

With love, Myriam


Myriam Ben Salem
Myriam Ben Salem
I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer. Writing has been my very favorite means to educate my audience, captivate their attention, talk to their emotions, and make them relate and take action. I have been honored by working as a columnist for BIZCATALYST 360°, an Award-Winning life, culture, and biz new media digest, serving as the global hub for enhanced performance and well-being, during 2020. Also, I am a contributing author in Mayhem to Miracles: True Stories of Courage, Triumph, and Peace. I am so in love with writing that I have a peaceful smile drawn on my face whenever I start visualizing the books I will be writing for whoever will be tempted to discover an inclusive philosophy breaking with all the stigmas! I was born in Tunisia, a small country in North Africa. I did pretty much everything earlier than the average: walking, talking, singing, dancing. Promoted throughout my entire education, I was also the leader of every end-of-year party. At some point, after working several years for multinational companies as an engineer, team leader, project coordinator, and product owner while always being a top performer, I figured out I was feeling miserable despite the 'perfect external image'. That marked the starting point of an existential crisis followed by an episode that triggered my re-birth and the beginning of the most rewarding adventure of my whole existence: re-writing my subconscious program and reconnecting with my true self. I was saved at the last moment through an out-of-body experience making me see all the lies, realize this gigantic Universe was not revolving around me. Most importantly, I was able to visualize I was here to leave a legacy like all of you, no matter how big or small! The butterfly took time to emerge though. Today, I identify myself as a Universal Citizen. Like-minded and light-hearted people are what I call home. I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer, and was granted the edutainer qualifier: a combination between education and entertainment! I educate on the importance of healing unsuspected traumas, seeing our limiting beliefs and biases with honest lenses, finding one's purpose and a principled mission that goes beyond the self, and unleashing the hidden potential so that to leave our legacy for the generations unborn. I have been using a panoply of means that could vary from explicit ones such as mentorship, speaking, and writing, a skill that emerged naturally during my self-actualization process to implicit mediums like storytelling, how I daily show up in the world and model servant leadership! Writing is my very favorite and most preferred tool deployed for my mission. The topics I explore are in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, epigenetics, and pretty much any topic involving human behavior. Common denominator? The quality of the subconscious program. You may have a look at some of my works published on my website; Set Yourself Free.

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  1. In crisis situations like the one we are experiencing, each of us, every single person, must be aware of having the capacità of remove or, at least, reducing the feeling of fear and panic in others and in themselves. The words we say to ourselves and to others can have a very strong emotional impact, so we must find the right energies to not fuel worries and anxiety, favoring instead an attitude of trust and reassurance.

    • Sorry dear Aldo for the delay (not sure how I missed you beautiful adding)!

      Thanks for stopping by and for confirming the emergency of self-management and helping others preserve their immune system!

  2. Myriam, love this story of compassion, joy and happiness! I too practice being positive in the face of adversity and bring it to others in the best way possible. At the same time, my heart goes out to all those negatively impacted and/or have no way to help themselves. Your experience shows how quickly one’s thinking and response to a situation can shift. Keep shining your light! Cheers!

    • I’m so sorry dear Eileen for the late answer! I missed your heartfelt message for some reason! I’m so glad you’re doing your best to keep people grounded and save their life as well! And thanks for your lovely and uplifting words 💙🌞🧚‍♀️

    • Awww 🥰 And I so love your generosity! I need to admit that, sometimes, I feel like my energy is too much for some people.

      Interestingly, they could be pretending being psychology experts or the product of a transformational adventure.

      This could be truly frustrating to me, since it’s not about the knowledge; rather about what we do with it!

      So, again, thank you so much Kimberly for stopping by, for walking your talk and showing the result of your transformation 💙 Blessings to you my friend 🌞

  3. They say the longest word in the English language is S M I L E S, and rightly so, because the first and the last letter are M I L E apart. Not only that, but smiles also happen to be the most contagious of all human attributes. Isn’t there an adage to the effect ‘you laugh, and the world laughs with you, when you cry, you cry alone?’

    Agreed, it is not an easy task to keep your smiles and make others laugh at times like these. But, I salute your spirit, Myriam, for keeping a brave face and sharing one of the most significant gifts with the masses. Up until now, I was under the wrong impression that only I could make a stressed-out cop laugh with a chuckle, am happy I found company!

    • Awww how incredibly moving this adding is dear Bharat ! I am absolutely honored your company 😊😊😊 Thaaaanks for stopping by! Means a lot!

  4. My heart is completely with You, Myriam! You’ve described me before the virus, now during the virus, and who I’m utterly committed to being every single day of my life until my last breath. I love you with my huge broken opened heart that too shattered many, many times long before this global pandemic. I cry every single day in grieflove, in gratitude. You are a precious treasure. Thank you for sharing this beautiful essay, how you with joy, compassion, and gratitude navigated the supermarket including finding your keys! Soul Sister in this life!! Wow!

    • OMG again and again…and again you touch to the core! What an honor having YOU as a soul sister my sweet Laura! Keep being a gift 💎 for this sick world! We desperately need your light and heart of gold 🤗

    • And than you for stopping by and adding your beautiful light and lovely energy to this piece my dear friend! 😍

  5. I’m with you, Myriam. This crisis is difficult and stressful, and so I try to stay positive also. And like you, I cry too. More randomly than before, as there are more emotional triggers. But we are in this together, and together we are stronger. We will come out on the other side, and although things won’t be as they were before, may we find it easy to continue being kinder and welcoming them little things more openly into our lives.

    • Thaaaanks Laura for stopping by and adding value! Much appreciated lady!

      Regarding this sentence “although things won’t be as they were before”, this is specifically what I wish for the future through this message!

      THEY NEED NOT TO BE THE SAME! This big trauma needs to be transformational! I believe it is the RIGHT time and our best chance to save both the humanity and the planet! 💙