I have been thinking a lot about inclusion, why some people seem to ‘fit in’ better than others, why we are so scared in the workplace of some people ‘fitting out’ i.e challenging the status quo! the polarisation of ideas and viewpoints and more.
When we are born, we are all innately included, it is only as we grow up and we take on stories, of others and build our own, that we start to see ourselves as separate from one another.
Are you including yourself?
My first reflection is am I and are you getting in your own way? Do you include yourself fully i.e. fears, hopes, dreams, etc or are you showing up as only part of you?
I was watching a really insightful documentary called Down to Earth and one of the quotes from one of the travellers was “Our only obstacle is our own worry & fear.”
That really resonates with me, does it with you?
Many people state that we are more similar than we are different as human beings and whilst that is true in my opinion, we are different, but we are not separate and this, I feel, is where we get confused at times. We have different thoughts, we look different to each other, we have different visions, dreams and hopes, however, we all individually live these different human experiences whilst all being connected to one another as the singular human race that we are.
This has become so crystal clear to me as I have sought to intentionally diversify my network and my friends to include more black men, for example, a different set of humans that I know far too few of to allow me to fully embrace and enjoy my own human experience more fully whilst I hope adding to theirs also.
I have had incredible experiences recently, being the only white panellist on Venandah Madanhi’s Talk About’s celebration of black inventors and history shortly after the murder of George Floyd.
Hosting so far four hue-man conversations of which the first three (2 from me and 1 from Mike) can all be found on the Value through Vulnerability podcast boosted by HumansFirst (ep 117, 119 and 122) and sponsored by Aequip, in collaboration with HumansFirst founder Mike Vacanti, has given me so much joy, meaning, and hope.
This week I was grateful to be asked to be the speaker at Linda Muyabo’s Christian Millionaire book club event on the topic of wealth where I shared my view on wealth being more holistic than just about money. Again I was the only white male, with one other white female amongst a group of 15 amazing different yet connected humans.
I have never felt so welcomed, comfortable nor hopeful following these experiences, all new experiences that I would not necessarily have experienced had it have not been for the sharp awakening following George Floyd’s murder.
I believe that exclusion of other human beings is a choice, and sometimes it is valid. Who wants to include a troll or a bully in our world, yet we are still connected to that troll or bully. Of course, the world is also suffering from widespread unconscious exclusion but even so, I feel that is a choice, even when unknowingly excluding.
To consciously exclude does not and should not mean to vilify, but it does mean to set boundaries.
I am not great at setting boundaries and continue to work on this, however in summary I assert, inclusion is innate, but exclusion is a choice.
I wonder what you think? …………………