In Ourselves We Trust

Trust is defined in the English language as a confident expectation of something. It is also defined as a reliance on the integrity, strength, and ability of a person or thing. When it comes right down to it, in both our business and personal lives, that reliance is, of course, on ourselves as well as any connection we may have to our higher power, whether we call it God, the Universe, higher consciousness or our higher self.

The more we can learn to trust ourselves in our professional worlds, the more we will come to the realization, the understanding, that so much of supposedly “logical” thought processes are really learned and conditioned patterns of thought.

They are “ruts,” if you will, where thoughts go over and over through the same easier, less scary, paths. Even if they are no longer serving us.

In order to bust out of those ruts in the mind, we must allow our Spirit, our heart, our gut to participate, without anxiety. We have to shut down the endless loop of conditioned thought playing in our heads and, instead, begin to trust what we intuitively know to be true, yet so often simply blow it off, for whatever reason. Perhaps over concern about what others might think, concern about who we are, concern about our abilities, etc.

In order to bust out of those ruts, we need to start trusting what we intuitively know to be true and stop automatically accepting the conditioned thought we are so accustomed to hearing.

We have to know, too, that it takes real live courage to trust in the manner we are discussing here. That may mean slowing down the process of a fabulous deal in motion in order to gather more demographic and financial information. It may mean deciding that we have enough data to make a decision and it’s time to make our choice. It also could involve taking a risk that we are quite uncomfortable taking by either adding or subtracting elements from our professional life, based on us trusting our knowing that it is crucial to the progress of our growth and vision.

Many times this kind of trust can seem crazy to those around us. All of a sudden we have to invest in a new piece of technology to enhance our database. Or we need to add a virtual assistant that we can’t quite afford because we trust that more business is on the way. Or we trust in that feeling that we need to take a half-day off once a week even though business is busier than ever.

Whatever is happening in our lives right now, we can trust it is leading us to expanded opportunities for love and growth.

We can trust our process. We will find more and more that others will begin to look to us for our guidance and insight.

At the same time, there may be others that are threatened or feel jealous by the expansion of who we are. They may start looking at us like we have suddenly grown two heads. It’s okay. What other people think of us is none of our business, even though we all like to be liked.

What will end up happening is that in trusting ourselves, what looked like crazy at the beginning looks like crazy brilliance at the end. That brilliance is what can lead us to success in all of our worlds. To know that we can trust ourselves expands our capacity to live a richer, more creative and more fulfilling life.


Darity Wesley
Darity Wesley
DARITY Wesley is an award-winning author, lawyer, speaker, Death Diva, and Wisdom Sharer. She recently concluded a 35-year legal career and is now focusing full time on publishing books, articles, podcasts, and videos that provide inspiration and support to those seeking personal and professional empowerment and transformation. She has traveled the evolutionary, metaphysical, esoteric, and personal development path for many decades and is a powerful resource for the application of evolving consciousness, which so many on this planet are experiencing at this time. Darity is the author of four books: You Can Transform Your Life and the You Can Transform Your Life ~ Go Deeper workbook, and How To Be the REAL You and the How To Be the REAL You ~ Go Deeper workbook. She is also the featured author in The Word Search Oracle: Yoga for the Brain, and a contributing author to Inspired Wisdom Word Search: Yoga for the Brain, Life Wisdom Word Search: Yoga for the Brain, and 27 Flavors of Fulfillment. She also offers private personal, professional, and spiritual consultation. Darity has been providing inspirational messages to subscribers around the world since 2006 and is currently offering a FREE monthly publication called ~Wisdom for the New Reality~. Visit her website to sign up! You can also visit her Tame That Monkey Mind TM website at And follow her on Facebook, Twitter and her YouTube channel @DarityWesley.

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  1. To be sure that what we dedicate our time to each day is exactly what we need to carry out our life and work projects, we need to learn to trust ourselves. It is not an easy thing and the main reason is that this Self is one that sometimes we really struggle to understand.
    To ensure that what we see we like, we need to train. It is necessary to value our qualities and learn to bring out what characterizes us. This generates trust in that Self that sometimes messes up our lives, but without which our life would be nothing but a copy and paste. And none of us wants this (even if the distraction society we are forced into is programmed for it). In order to have faith in that Self, it is necessary for that Self to be an integral person, able to identify values and ideals for one’s life.