While that statement has been in my head for a long time, I am actually quoting someone else here. I won’t name names as I wouldn’t want to embarrass anyone.
Actually, the statement (I refuse to be a victim) can be applied to many situations from violent crime, to domestic abuse, to dealing with a deadly disease to the emotional stress of the current pandemic. The statement recently made had to do with the stress brought on by various aspects of the virus and the resulting isolation.
Even those not following a strict isolation regimen for the past 11 months have suffered. Loss of one’s business whether a restaurant, or a retail shop, or a service business the economic loss is very stressful. Those that are now forced to work from home are finding that the loss of personal contact with fellow workers and the loss of being part of something bigger than self leaves a major void. Then there are the millions that have simply lost all income and are facing the loss of shelter, having to rely on donated food sources and charities. How about the stress of having to explain all this to one’s children?
The result is predictable. Every little glitch becomes magnified and multiplied until it seems that one more can push a person over the edge.
Things that would normally be dealt with as routine little aggravations or what I call bumps in the road become bigger than life issues. A short term power outage, a child spilling his milk, the dryer eating another sock, a wrong number call at 2 am, or Loss of internet service in the middle of a phone call.
At some point, one reaches the stage where one wants to scream. When you reach that edge it is time to take a deep breath and yell “I refuse to be a victim”. Try it, you’ll feel better.