If you’re stressed about the results of the election this article may be your best shot at enjoying the next four years far more than you currently believe you will be able to enjoy them.
I turned off my television in 1995 and increased my family and reading time. The shows back then were bringing people into my home that, if they’d been there in person, I would have asked them to leave.
I don’t watch the news because it’s all biased and designed to increase ratings rather than inform the audience.[i]
Although I don’t choose to watch TV or the news, it is difficult to avoid it entirely. Snippets I viewed while in restaurants with televisions blaring and assorted headlines had led me to believe that Trump was a war mongering racist who didn’t respect women. This was something I absolutely did not want. I won’t go into Hillary because anything I would say is moot at this point.
Then I began noticing that Twitter seemed to represent parallel universes. One universe reflected the same Trump as mainstream media and the other universe reflected him in a very different light. I am an analytical researcher. I like to understand things at a deep level so this situation not only offered a possible solution to my frustration about the election, it also intrigued me. I also understand that humans thrive when they are happy and don’t thrive when they are unhappy so I am always looking for the best possible perspective I can have about any situation I have to deal with.
The first time I watched a video of a full Trump rally I recognized snippets the mainstream media had played and they were portrayed so far out of context as to be unrecognizable. When the entire video was watched his statements took on a completely different meaning. I began being optimistically hopeful that things were not nearly as bad as I had been led to believe.
If you are part of my inner circle, or even just someone who has been in one of my longer training programs, you know the following about me:
Not being racist is so important to me that (when I was single) any man I dated who showed the slightest indication of being racist was dumped immediately regardless of any good qualities he might have possessed. I do not want someone like that in my life.
If a man was not nice to everyone (especially the waitress and strangers who arrived at the door at the same time he did) he never made it past a first date with me.
There are people in my life I love who happen to be gay and I support them without reservation. I am also an ordained minister and happily marry gay couples.
I am obviously female and while I’ve never considered myself a feminist I have never held back my desires, goals, or ambitions as the result of my gender. I have always viewed my gender as irrelevant to my professional life. In my last C-suite role before starting Happiness 1st Institute I joked with my all-male peers who all had stay-at-home wives that I also wanted a wife to fix dinner, clean house, shop, and provide taxi service to the children. As a single parent I wanted help but I managed to make it through without it.
Since starting Happiness 1st Institute in 2011 I have written numerous books and a theme that runs through most of them is that of helping the underserved using evidence-based knowledge. In other words, applying science to problems we know it solves because the research proves it works.
I spent considerable time finding links to full videos of Trump rallies and also old video’s from long before he ran for office in order to analyze for myself who the man is. What I saw shocked and angered me. It shocked me because mainstream media was doing a disservice to America by portraying an individual with a long history of not only helping Black Americans, but of being honored for his good works by people like Jesse Jackson as a racist. It angered me that the mainstream media acted with total disregard to the health and welfare of Americans when they increase stress and anxiety with their deliberate twisting of the truth.
Surviving a Trump Presidency
I have seen repeated articles asking “What do we tell our children about President Trump” from parents who are truly alarmed.