I Am So Confused?

When I was in the third grade, we moved to Fountain Hill, Pennsylvania.  The new school I would attend was so close to our new house that we could walk out our backyard and turn to the right in the alley that was behind our house.  In 100 feet, we were at the main street and just across the street was our school.  So, on the first day of school, my brother and I walked to the main street, looked both ways to ensure there were no cars coming and ran across the street.

Immediately, we began to hear a whistle blowing and a police officer was yelling in our direction and waving his arms.  We began walking along the fence line to where the gate was to enter the schoolyard and the police officer was pointing at us and yelling, “You two, come here!”  We had no idea what we had done wrong but we knew that when a police officer tells you to do something, you do it.  So, we walked past the gate to the corner where he was standing.

“Boys, do you know how dangerous your little stunt was?  Why you could have been hit by a car crossing the road in the middle of the block like that.  From now on, you will walk to the corner where I will be stationed to stop traffic so you can cross safely.  Do you understand?”  We shook our heads in complete respect for this man.  “Good, then we won’t have a problem like this again.  Get on to school now.”

Until we moved, we would always take the walk to the corner and let the police officer stop traffic so we could safely cross the street.  But, I wonder how that conversation would have gone today.  I image my brother would have whipped out his cell phone and started recording as I yelled at the police officer that he had no right to tell me where I could cross the street.  I would give him my parent’s lawyer’s phone number and my parents would have sued the police department for infringing on my civil rights.  The City Council would probably meet to demand the police chief resign and would pass a law that would make Fountain Hill a sanctuary city for jaywalking.

I’m so confused!  I learned in civics class that laws are put into place to ensure our rights as citizens of this great country are protected and that we, as the people responsible for the safety and security of our nation, are protected from those who wish to do us harm.  I was also taught that as time passes and innovations become a part of our everyday lives, laws may need to be changed to keep pace with these changes and/or new laws will need to be implemented.  As citizens, we must communicate with our elected officials to make our position known on important issues that impact the legislative process so that our representatives can represent us to create laws that serve the greater needs of “we, the people.”  And if all else fails, should we believe that a law is unfair, we can go to court and ask for a review of the law and a legal ruling as to whether the law is constitutional or not.  That ruling will require lawmakers to leave the law in place or they will have to rewrite an unconstitutional law.  This system worked and served the people of this nation for over 200 years.

But today, we have states that say they do not have to follow federal law (Does anyone remember all the issues that lead this country into a Civil War?).  We have counties saying they will not follow the laws of the state in which they exist.  We have cities that want to ignore federal and state laws.  And finally, we have judges making law from the bench without input from the people.  Is there any wonder why the citizens of our great country are now picking and choosing which laws they will obey and which laws they will not obey?  The results are starting to catch up with us as you can see from these examples.

  • The city with the most restrictive gun laws also has the highest murder rate. (And the cry for “banning” guns gets louder but common sense tells us that will not remove guns from people who chose to ignore the existing laws.)
  • A state that allows adults to legally smoke marijuana for recreational purposes is now experiencing an increase in health problems in teenagers related to the smoking of marijuana even though teenagers are not legally allowed to smoke this drug. (Did we learn nothing from our laws concerning the legal consumption of alcohol that haven’t worked in years?)
  • A former Magistrate Court Judge felt that animal control requirements in a rural county were unnecessary. As a result, he dismissed any case that was presented to him by the county code enforcement department.  (The code enforcement people stopped trying to enforce the laws which then caused citizens with valid issues to complain because nothing was being done to correct the problem.)
  • A District Attorney refused to prosecute an employee for embezzlement because the amount was not very large and he had “more important” cases to handle. (Yep, another employee was caught embezzling at a later date.)

As a result of this selective adherence to the law, our everyday lives have become one big fight for “my rights”.  So, a child can break a rule at school and will not be punished because the parents scream “unfair” and all the children in the school suffer because their learning environment has become a place where teachers and administrators spend most of their time with problem children rather than those who wish to learn.  An employee will surf the internet all day long and accomplish nothing but bring a lawsuit against the employer for wrongful termination when they lose their job.  A teenager who had his driver’s license for less than one year will die in an automobile accident caused by him driving at an excessive speed even though he had three previous convictions for speeding, had already demolished his first car and his parent still bought him a new sports car, and was awaiting trial for his fourth speeding ticket.

Where is the leadership?  Where is the accountability?  Where is the responsibility?  Where is the justice?

These are the qualities that are missing from our elected leaders, our business leaders, our school administrators, and most importantly, from parents.  So how do we fix it?

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Parents – Teach your children that they are not the center of the universe – other people exist on this planet and they are as important as your child. There are social rules and laws that must be followed and those who enforce those rules and laws should be respected.  Failure to live up to these requirements will result in consequences your child may not like but he/she will be responsible for facing these consequences.  Each child will be held accountable for how they live their lives.
School Administrators – Teach our children that adhering to the rules that are in place to create a welcoming learning environment is not an option but a social responsibility. And if parents try to bully administrators because their little darling keeps breaking the rules and is suffering consequences, too bad.  The parents of children who follow the rules expect each child to follow the same rules.  So, do what is right and stand up to these parents.
Business leaders – Teach by example. Set high expectations for yourself and live up to them.  Your employees are watching and will follow your lead if they respect you and respect themselves.  But if you do happen to have a problem employee, correct the problem quickly and fairly.  The longer you let bad behavior continue, the more your other employees will begin to believe that breaking the rules should be acceptable for everyone.
Elected official – You were elected to represent the people who elected you and not your party affiliation. So, do your job and represent the people.  And we the people, expect this from your elected officials and stop making excuses for them.  In the end, those elected need to know that you possess a very powerful tool – your vote.  They must earn it by loyalty to their constituents and not through loyalty to a big money machine.[/message] [su_spacer]

As a nation, we cannot continue down this path of “me first” and lawlessness without the understanding that someday, we will have a nation where the rule of law means nothing and anarchy prevails.  That will put you and everyone you love in harm’s way.  It is time for every American to stand up and be the kind of leader that places accountability, responsibility, and justice at the forefront of our everyday lives.  Let’s all commit to that kind of exceptional leadership.


Len Bernat
Len Bernat
LEN is a leader groomed by 20 years of molding and shaping by some of the finest leaders in the United States Marine Corps. Their guidance helped Len realize his full potential as he moved from an enlisted Marine to becoming an Officer of Marines. Len became known for being the leader who could turn any lackluster organization into a strong, functional unit. Upon his retirement, Len worked in several positions before finally starting a second career in governmental procurement. His experience and leadership skills enabled him to be recognized as the 2011 Governmental Procurement Officer of the Year for the Governmental Procurement Association of Georgia and opened doors for him to teach at many of the association’s conferences. Len was also called to the ministry and was ordained at Ashford Memorial Methodist Church in November of 1999. Today, Len is the Pastor of Maxeys Christian Church in Maxeys, Georgia. Len has been married to his wife, Hazel, for 36 years and they have three daughters, three grandchildren, and three great-grandchildren. Grab your copy of Len's new Book – Leadership Matters | Advice From A Career USMC Officer. Using his life experiences as examples, Len takes the eleven principles of leadership and the fourteen traits every leader should possess—which he learned during twenty years in the Marine Corps—and teaches the reader how he was molded and shaped by some of the best leaders the Corps had to offer.

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  1. Len, the biggest problem here is that we do not have effective leadership in this country. Have you hear about Bail Reform here in New York. Our police officers put their lives on the line day after day to protect law-abiding citizens only to have these sc– put back on the street hours after their arrest without having to post bail no matter how serious the crime they committed was. Medical marijuana sooner or later was going to create a problem. Your essay in all seriousness emphasizes the need for somebody like you who will represent the citizens.

    • I am guessing this comment is from Joel Elveson. I have heard of the bail reform in NYC and how they arrested a bank robber, released him without bail, and he robbed another back right after his release. When we take away consequences, we encourage bad behavior. Our nation is really in trouble. Thanks for commenting.

    • Aldo – As always, you get right to the heart of the subject with your comments. Thank you for joining this discussion.