How’s Your Feist?

COUNTLESS-JOYS-by-Devaney-Rae-MastheadTHE COMMON PHRASE, “through thick and thin”, means different things to different people – especially within different life scenarios.

  • If you remain strong and courageous through thick and thin, you hold fast to your goals and continue to march forward, in good times and in bad times.
  • If you stay with or support someone through thick and thin, you stay with and support them, even in difficult situations.
  • If you hang in there through thick and thin as challenges impact your family or a major project, you look for solutions and refuse to give up or blame others.

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“My feist?” you may ask with a scrunched up nose and raised eyebrows. “Yes, your feist!” I reiterate. You know, it’s the place within that is deep down in your gut. It’s the part of you HowsYourFeist_FinalImagethat comes forth so lively, so determined, and so courageous – for all of your world to see – especially when you are challenged by life’s whims and woes. It’s the part of you that shines the brightest and the strongest when adversity waylays you in the deepest places of your heart.

“You’ve got some feist!” a dear friend declared to me recently. “Well, I’m so glad that you believe that and see that quality in me”, was my grateful response. Sometimes, the strongest of your strong feist can be tested and tried beyond what you believe you are able to bear. When your feist is low but your life demands remain high, what boot straps do you tug upon to pull yourself up?

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Perhaps the boot strap of your Perspective will provide some renewed energy. Consider double-checking your perspective for a right frame of mind, first. Then, ensure that your perspective is based upon facts and reality, regardless of what you are believing as truth in the moment. Even more, inspect your current attitude about the situation, especially about the individual people involved in the situation. Wrong perspectives can land you in a cave of darkness, especially if you are not reassessing what you believe and hear to be truth. Your feist takes a beating when you grope in the darkness and believe lies as truth.
Perhaps the boot strap of your Fear Factor will provide some insight into your reactions. Double-check how your deepest heart fears might be negatively impacting your thought processes. Unresolved roots of fear can drive you into mistaken places of poor judgement. If you fear the loss of control, power, or reputation then you will tend to become paranoid that others are against you. When you allow your thoughts to run crazy in this fear vein, you tend to attack those who are really for you. Sadly, you often fail to see how your fear-driven reactions are spinning off reactive behavior from others. It’s a merry-go-round of deceit that will land you face down in the mud. Your feist takes a beating when you ride this merry-go-round and believe lies as truth.
Perhaps the boot straps of your Target and Plan will provide some fresh focus and direction. Consider re-visiting the target and the plan you originally developed as guides for your efforts. So often, plans are developed but they are not referred to regularly to refresh and check the course and direction. Even worse, it is easy to forget how much rest there is from wayward motives within the plan. When you fail to rest in the plan, the King of Bad Behavior will appear. This king describes your wayward actions, which are actually outside of the original plan, with pretty little words that sound like descriptions of actions within the plan. Bad behavior that is called “planned behavior” most often occurs because you don’t want to change something about you; yet you still want the good outcomes of the original plan. Deceitful behavior within the plan will generally land you in the belly of the whale, gasping for the fresh air of truth and transparency. Your feist takes a beating when you’re in the belly of the whale and believe lies as truth.[/message][su_spacer]

Tying it All Up

If your feist is only holding up through sheer willpower as you bulldoze over others to secure your territory, your feist is pitifully flailing. If your feist is being propped up by divine words of flowery nonsense, your feist is causing nausea. If your feist is spewing territorial sarcasm and self-defensive bitterness, your feist is making you look nasty.

But if your feist is truly searching for the return to its authentic feistiness – in all of its unique glory – pull yourself up by the boot straps of genuinely spoken truth, desire for connection, and pursuit of harmony. These boot straps crisscross into a beautiful lace of rightful outcomes. Best of all, these outcomes are trustworthy, faithful, and filled with the best interests of others – all within the secure knot at the top of the lace.

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Copyright 2016. Devaney Rae, L.L.C. All Rights Reserved.


Devaney Rae
Devaney Rae
Devaney’s professional background includes professional Business Development, Leadership, and Life on Purpose Coaching, along with Instructional Design Technology consulting for Training & Presentation Design. Devaney also provides professional consulting within Organizational/ Performance Management for business owners and decision-makers. Devaney also established Life On Purpose with Devaney Rae in early 2018 as a way to connect with others who want to Get From Where You Are Now To Where You Want to Be. This effort connects people with professional coaching and a variety of resources to establish business growth that includes learning to create and manage multiple streams of income. Devaney works one-on-one and in small groups with people to create their own Life Purpose Plan and to develop the correct Business Strategy for Growth. Then, she helps them bring the plan to life so each one can step into their ownMORE! She has enjoyed a successful career in Healthcare Administration, Chemical Manufacturing, Retail Sales, Marketing, and within the Non-Profit Business sectors. Devaney earned her Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration from Walden University and her Master’s degree in Instructional Design Technology for Professional Trainers from New York Institute of Technology. She also earned a degree in Dental Hygiene with license to practice in Texas and Louisiana. Devaney is a published author of the book, Countless Joys: The Place Beyond Tears (Westbow Press, 2015). The content is her story about how ordinary people are called to do “the extraordinary” in life. She has a passion for impacting others with life-giving hope, joy, and peace. Devaney established a non-profit organization, Countless Joys, Inc. in 2015. The mission of Countless Joys, Inc. is to Touch the Lives of Others with Joy. The specific focus is on Interrupting Human Trafficking of children and teenagers. Altogether, giving back to others is Devaney’s personal life mission and joy. Devaney makes her home in Franklin, Tennessee.

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  1. Very good points, Devaney. Seems to me there are two challenges in the issue. One of course is have the inner strength and commitment to stay the course when faced with obstacles and down turns. Your feisty.

    The other is to self examine as to whether you are right or not. That is perhaps the hardest half of the issue. No one enjoys looking at self with a surgical eye. Therefor we run the risk of determinedly defending and pursuing our position, even when wrong.

  2. I admit I had to go look up the word feist because while I have been called feisty, I didn’t know it had a root word. Duh! Like I shouldn’t know that … but I get this. It’s good to be feisty and have ‘some feist’ as your friend complimented you. But you’re right we will fail in being who we want to be if our motives, attitudes, emotions, and perspectives aren’t aligned with our true intent.

    • Lol. Love your comments, Jane. Yes, yes, I have to keep my feist in check and aligned with right motives, attitudes, emotions, and perspective; or else, I have to repent! 🙂 Thank you for reading and taking a moment to share.