Potentially, I am over half way through my life. So, I thought that it may be prudent to check my progress against the project plan and review my lessons learnt to date. My plan is made up of a number of work-streams. I have allocated a status to each work-stream depending on whether they have a) achieved the original objectives b) stayed within scope and c) delivered against planned time-scales. The results of this analysis are below:

  1. Career: Amber based on the fact that phase 1 went well but there has been a delay in launching phase 2 and whilst it is underway, I’ve got some time to make up
  2. Love Life: Green based on finding a soul mate even though he remains on a performance improvement plan when it comes to the domestic front
  3. Family: Amber based on having 3 gorgeous children and a fairly fit and healthy extended family but the death of my brother-in-law and father were way out of scope and never part of the plan
  4. Friends: Green based on getting older, wiser and better at avoiding superficial people whilst finding true, authentic friends
  5. Finance: Red, it was never going to be any other, nobody can shop like me, it’s an art form
  6. Health: Green based on my nearest and dearest including myself being healthy, happy and ever so slightly mad

And then we come to lessons learnt thus far……..

  1. Learn to be yourself and no one else. There is really no point buying a size 8 dress which you adore but can never wear as you are a size 16. You will end up looking at it with sadness not joy. It only represents who you are not. If you are with people who make you feel uncomfortable about being you, get out of there and quick
  2. Stop swimming against the tide and go with it. You are just going to drown in life’s disappointments and frustrations if you don’t. Life is so much bigger than each one of us, we simply have a part to play. Turn up, play the part well and make the best of the opportunities that come your way
  3. Don’t let black holes engulf you. You cannot always ignore or avoid black holes, they are a fact of life, but you can hang onto the side of them rather than allowing yourself to fall into them. Hanging on is hard, it is exhausting and it hurts but eventually, you will be able to climb out – stronger and wiser
  4. There is only one competitor in the race and that’s you. It doesn’t matter whether you are first, second or last. Your achievements are relative to your goals and your aspirations, and no-one else. As long as you have tried your best and pushed your own boundaries, you’ve won the race
  5. Ditch the ego, she pretends to be a friend but she’s not. In fact, she is a predator eating away at your self-esteem, driving you to make the wrong decisions and generally making you act like a dick
  6. There’s more than one boat. If you miss the boat the first time round there is always another one, it’s just a matter of patience and being aware that your time will come again
  7. And finally, there is no completion date. We are always a work in progress and some bits need to be re-done more than once. That’s ok, stop looking for the end and enjoy today.


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Nik Davis
NIK DAVIS is a business transformation expert and has spent 20 years in the corporate world. Her comfort zone is order, logic and applying analytical tools to solve complex problems. She is also a keen observer of life, a writer and eccentric. Nik has recently returned to the world of work after taking a career break to spend time with her family. Upon her return, she found that her perspective had changed, as had the world she was returning to. Nik decided to carve out a new place in that world and mould some of it to fit her too. Nik sees life from quirky angles, shaped by experiences and the vast amount of knowledge we now have access to. She likes to write about her experiences and observations. To ‘tell it how it is’ and to find a more authentic way to live, whether in our professional or personal lives. Nik often talks about finding ‘The Third Way’. It’s a philosophy about life, having a personal life as well as a career, making money and being socially generous, being logical and sensitive, living by the rules of a society but not being afraid to challenge them, inspiring others to feel good but not for your own ego, giving rather than taking. Nik wants to make a difference to this world by getting people to see things differently, to try new ways of working but most of all, to re-discover our true selves and therefore reach our true potential. Nik also has two other persona’s: nikdavis which is where Nik writes about her deeply personal experiences of life. Nik runs a facebook group alongside this website to create a safe place for people to discuss the topics that are raised in her blog. Nik’s second persona is Lilly Isabella and this is where she shares her passion of fashion and design.
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