[su_dropcap style=”flat”]W[/su_dropcap]HEN WE ARE SELF-EMPLOYED it is vital to keep our head’s in the right spot! If something throws you off into a fit of frustration, anger, of other form of stress, you are not being as effective as you can be. Not only are you not being effective personally, you are also negatively effecting your staff and your customers.
Here is the reality of how staff react to frustration and anger you display. When you take out your anger and frustration in front of employees, they lose respect. When a superior yells and screams at work, it puts everyone on edge. People become afraid to speak up or give feedback, in case you yell and scream at them. When this happens, they are not just fearful, but they lose respect and trust in you. When they lose respect and trust, they don’t have a sense of security. This leads to poor culture, unsupportive co-workers, workers calling in sick, some may steal and this could be something as simple as stealing your time. They are not putting in the work you are paying for…they are spending more time thinking about or doing something else, and are not committed to you. This isn’t just a discussion about how YOU overcome challenges, it is a discussion about how people lose their business because they don’t get their own head’s straight.
So how does one do that? Especially, if up to this point, it is your nature to fly off the handle, and yell and scream, you may think you are not capable of this. If this is the first time you have read my one of my articles, I want you to know, ANYTHING I teach you in my articles is a result of it working in my own life. I do not teach you from “theory”. I teach you from my own experiences of what actually works. I WAS that person, who flew off the handle and had no patience. That was 30 years ago. I have learned and found principles to live my life by that changed every single part of my life into a positive result.
Today I want to share one of the most powerful principles I have learned. Don’t overlook the simplicity…THAT is part of what makes this so very effective.
A very simple, but powerful concept is to say to yourself –
don’t make it a thing” [su_spacer]
When we make something a “thing”, we take a small irritating thing and blow it up to be like a mountain. The key is to stop yourself and remember this statement. It takes all the energy out of “the thing” and allows you to deal with whatever it is from your “higher self”, your more “creative self”. I have used this in all aspects of my life, business and personal, with great success!
Here is a small example from a business perspective: Something goes wrong in a business. The owner (we will call him Joe) used to be the “fly off the handle” type of person. Joe decides to apply this principle, and says to himself “ok Joe, don’t make it a thing”. It doesn’t remove the challenge Joe was having, but it does allow him to deal with it differently….more calmly and more pro-actively.
From there, Joe can ask himself – what are the solutions-? who can I ask-what can I do? Joe can gather the employees that would be dealing with this (or have knowledge about) and tell them the issue and ask for ideas to resolve it.
This does a couple of things – gives Joe more respect, trust and credibility, along with new ideas he may not have considered. It gives the employees a feeling they are valued, there is a great culture of improvement, creates new leaders within the organization that take on more responsibility, and employees are happier and more fulfilled…they feel like a team. This is important to retain talent, and when this is accomplished it transmits out to the client, who will feel that positive vibe happening within Joe’s organization. That makes people want to come back, and refer their friends.
I challenge you over the next week….every time something happens in your life or your business, take a deep breath and just say to yourself “don’t make it a thing”. Then allow yourself the space to find a way to creatively deal with it. I would love to hear your feedback on this…let me know what kind of results you are getting from making this one small shift in thinking into your life.
P.S. The great news is, if you commit to doing this for a week, not only will it change things for you, but you will have such a positive experience, it will be EASY to keep doing this…..