In the sports world, there are two well established time frames. There is a Season where we are able to see extraordinary and competitive events. An athlete’s skill set, determination, and performance are on full display. In our own lives, there are periods where everything clicks, falls into place, and elevate our profiles and circle of influence. However, there is another season, that in my view is much more important. That is the Off Season. This is where the preparation, planning, practicing, and placement begins. This is where the hard work that does not show up on ESPN takes place. During this time, we, like star performers are stretching, shifting out of our comfort zone, and working to expand our own talents towards becoming a better version of ourselves.
The Off Season is where things are not clear and setbacks can rule the day. This is the time where we are learning to develop, define, and dream about the type of life we seek for ourselves. The Off Season is such a critical time if we want to seek clarity. It is a time where we have to question our WHY. It provides an opportunity to see what we are made of especially once we have made a decision to better ourselves. The Off Season is most difficult because it requires a certain discipline and determination to move beyond where we currently sit. It is not comfortable yet it is the most rewarding as we transition towards our own In Season Experience. Below are 4 things to consider as you transition from one season to another.
It is Temporary: This is true in either season. When you are going thru a tough time, it is important to note that the experience, situation, and circumstance is just temporary. It is going to pass and there will be a more favorable In Season experience. Conversely, we must continue to grow thru each season. Our evolution is based on making deliberate choices to understand and improve our perspective in each season.
Creates Opportunity: During the offseason, we are able to clearly determine what is working, what needs to be altered, and what simply needs to go away. As we self-assess in a clear and unfiltered moment, certain definitions of destiny will become clear. We have to be willing to seek a strength within to pull out a full display of opportunities and direction. Opportunities come at the most Interesting and Unlikely moments. Be ready to accept, embrace, and seize the moment of truth that comes especially in your Off Season
Difficult: The Off Season is not easy. Several emotions come into play during this process. We may have feelings of Defeat, Frustration, Confusion, and Failure. Things may not click, may not make sense, and may not be in line with our expectations. It is during this time we have to force ourselves to take the steps necessary to press forward. Seek guidance by talking with people who have achieved levels of success. What did they do during their Off Season to elevate their performance and shift things around? The Off Season is what creates champions no matter if it is sports, politics, business, entertainment, or even leader of your neighborhood association.
Acceptance: Accept where you are at this moment Define it for what it is. During these difficult moments, ask yourself what you need to learn, what you need to apply, and frankly, what you need to let go. The moment is NOW as you seek to gain traction and prepare yourself to transition back into a new season.
Everyone is going thru seasons on a regular basis in different facets of their life. This is the perfect time to take stock of where you want to be, who you want to be, what you have to do so that you can better appreciate your in-season experience. (It is on the way) Things change in an instant and how we prepare determines the level that we are able to prosper.
Relaxing days can be useful to improve oneself, reflect on new projects and recharge.
Certainly the off season is the time to relax and have fun. But it can also be an opportunity to improve and keep your “emotional intelligence” trained:
Dedicating time to reflection. Self-awareness is the basis of emotional intelligence. On holiday you can have more time to reflect on yourself because the pace of everyday life slows down and it is appropriate to take advantage of it.
Looking for ways to relate and understand others. When we are in a more relaxed state of mind, we are more receptive. People with a strong emotional intelligence observe those around them, from their expressions to their way of walking. And they take every opportunity to do it. The holiday certainly offers more possibilities than those offering a day at the office.
One can exercise oneself to be decisive, a useful exercise, a behavior that can then be applied also at work or in important situations.
Thinking back to your goals. Far from the daily routine, one can better examine one’s life with a critical gaze. The experiences we experience during a trip, for example, can offer new incentives for new projects.
Improving our “resilience” habits. We often have good intentions on ways we can recompense: doing meditation, writing a diary. But many times we do not put them into action. On holiday we could come across rewarding or relaxing activities that we had not considered before and resume them once we return to the routine.