Dearest hearts before you can begin the journey to find your soulmate, you must first complete the journey inward. There is no magic formula necessary to attract a soulmate, find true love or live happily ever after but there is a condition. Before you will be able to find the partner of your dreams you must first learn to love yourself. Now for those of you who claim this is an easy task which can be done overnight, we want to share with you a truth. A truly self-loving being does not accept one aspect of themselves and discard, condemn or overlook the rest. A truly self-loving person is not blind to their flaws or of the belief that they are without need of growth and expansion. No, the truly self-loving individual, sees themselves as they are and has chosen to love all of themselves while also acknowledging that certain areas can be improved.
By agreeing to go within their own hearts and by addressing their own successes and failures they have succeeded in moving themselves from the place of external well-being in which the outward trappings: social status, financial stability, and workplace standing determine happiness and stature to the quiet, inner landscape of the heart that cannot be seen by others but can be felt by all
The deeply self-loving person has stopped seeking outside approval. Although external validation is always welcome and feels good it’s not necessary to the evolving, self-loving individual. By agreeing to go within their own hearts and by addressing their own successes and failures they have succeeded in moving themselves from the place of external well-being in which the outward trappings: social status, financial stability, and workplace standing determine happiness and stature to the quiet, inner landscape of the heart that cannot be seen by others but can be felt by all. They have learned to determine their well-being by the peace of their heart-center. When they are in love with and at peace with all that they are, they know a kind of supreme satisfaction and contentment that draws others to them like moths to a flame. Those who have learned to love all that they are, are not out seeking, chasing or pursuing others. They’re content in their beingness and they trust that they will always be at the right place at the right time.
Making such a bold proclamation to yourself, about yourself sets off an energetic resonance within the auric field that continues to reflect and magnify this state of well-being and appreciation
Therefore, if you want to find your soulmate you must go within and begin the work of falling in love with all that you are. To be successful in this quest of self-love you must first adopt an honest attitude. Begin by taking an assessment, “What qualities that I possess do I love about myself?” Make a handwritten list of all of your most admirable qualities. Review this list often. You may even go so far as to carry this list around with you so you’re able to read it throughout the day. You may copy the list onto any medium for portability and convenience but the original list must be handwritten. Making a handwritten list of all the ways in which you excel is the first step you’ll make in loving all of yourself. Taking the time to handwrite a list of attributes clearly states, ” I love you, you are worthy, I value you and find you deserving.” Making such a bold proclamation to yourself, about yourself sets off an energetic resonance within the auric field that continues to reflect and magnify this state of well-being and appreciation. By spending continued time on all you love about yourself, you’re reinforcing the idea that you’re lovable and acceptable as you are.
Allowing yourself to be loved and accepted as you are enables you to feel safe and it’s when you feel safe that you’re able to make life-affirming choices instead of thinking thoughts or participating in actions that would bring hurt or harm
Love and acceptance are then responsible for opening the door to the next step in the process because loving and accepting yourself as you are in this moment enables you to flow seamlessly into loving transformation. When you feel accepted, worthy of being loved and loved it’s easy to let go of the self-sabotaging behaviors that you’ve been indulging in. It becomes easy to make self-loving choices and to choose those thoughts and beliefs that support your highest good. Allowing yourself to be loved and accepted as you are enables you to feel safe and it’s when you feel safe that you’re able to make life-affirming choices instead of thinking thoughts or participating in actions that would bring hurt or harm. The self-loving person has given themselves permission to grow. They understand some of that growth may be painful and frustrating. They’re aware that sometimes they may appear to fail but the love they hold for themselves allows them to explore, to learn and to become more without ever having to feel shameful or foolish for being willing to try.
Once you have stopped resisting the good that you are. Once you’ve made peace with your own greatness and once you understand that you as you are and others, as they are, are perfect for the life journey they have chosen, then you’ll be able to step out from under the censure of self-criticism
The journey to self-actualization is a journey of love. It is the highest calling of any individual and will require your complete surrender, yet, this surrender will not be to another human being. Nor will it be to subjugation or abuse. No, it will be to the wisdom of the unconditionally loving energy of the Creator. Once you have stopped resisting the good that you are. Once you’ve made peace with your own greatness and once you understand that you as you are and others, as they are, are perfect for the life journey they have chosen, then you’ll be able to step out from under the censure of self-criticism. You’ll stop looking for what’s wrong and realize that nothing is wrong. Everything is perfect for where it is and what it is undertaking. Then from this place of unconditional acceptance, you’ll be able to move in the direction of your greatest good. It’s from this place, this place of rightness, where life will become magical.
Instead of trying, putting forth effort or working to attract someone, the love you allow to flow to you and through you is now attracting into your life everything you could ever desire
Instead of running after anyone or anything. Instead of begging and pleading with Source to bring you the desires of your heart, your perfect partner and a life that feels wonderful, you’ll discover that the love you’re holding for yourself has spread from you to others and into everything you touch. Instead of trying, putting forth effort or working to attract someone, the love you allow to flow to you and through you is now attracting into your life everything you could ever desire.
A journey into the heart where you discover that the one you must fall in love with first is yourself and from that place of love and acceptance all good things are added unto you
Finding your soulmate is not an exercise in looking around the world for what you desire; it’s a journey into the heart where you discover that the one you must fall in love with first is yourself and from that place of love and acceptance all good things will be added unto you.
Beautiful. Self love is often overlooked but vital to growth and good relationship skills.Thanks for this.
Awww, thanks so much, Donna. I really do believe that self-love is the answer to all of life’s problems. When you love who you are and where you are, it’s really difficult to be angry or hateful to others. Sending you much joy and love
Hi Marcia, I love this because it speaks volumes of what I believe when it comes to soulmates. I wish I had this confidence when I was 19, however, I have found my soul mate, and Allowing yourself to be loved and accepted as you are enables you to feel safe and it’s when you feel safe that you’re able to make life-affirming choices instead of thinking thoughts or participating in actions that would bring hurt or harm, could not have been said better!
Being able to be myself without fear or any hesitation is a key for me, and knowing that my soulmate, now my husband accepts me and learning that I appreciate him more when he lets me be myself.
What brilliance you’ve shared, Lynn. I’m so grateful you’ve found your soulmate and that you recognize them as the gift they truly are. I hear from so many people that they don’t feel complete without a partner and yet with the next breath they’re stating how their partner has let them down. If we all commit to loving ourselves more, we can start letting our partner off the hook and begin just enjoying them, ourselves and our life as it unfolds. Knowing, that everything is perfect just as it is. Sending you love and joy
Same to you and keep the articles coming, they are a gift.