Dearest hearts, as social beings who benefit from being in relationships with each other looking for a partner is a normal outgrowth of daily life. However, looking for someone to be what you feel you’re not cannot lead to a beneficial partnership. When you search for others to make yourself worthy, you’re asking for others who are stronger to shore up your weaknesses. This way of partnering may lead you into abusive relationships, therefore, we advise that before you look outward you do the inner work of releasing your own limiting beliefs about yourself.
Every thought and action that’s self-condemning draws you further from your ideal state of Divine alignment. With each passing moment that you spend away from your place of alignment, you cause yourself unnecessary hardship
Once you’ve created a self-loving relationship that honors all that you are rather than a self-hating one that tries to diminish who you are, you’ll be able to call forth a partner who will complement rather than compete with you. Therefore, it’s necessary to first understand how to honor yourself. Honoring all that you are doesn’t mean giving yourself a free pass when it comes to those ways in which you’re actively involved in self-sabotage. Every thought and action that’s self-condemning draws you further from your ideal state of Divine alignment. With each passing moment that you spend away from your place of alignment, you cause yourself unnecessary hardship. Therefore, before you begin to identify and attract your perfect partner, it’s important to be in alignment with your Divine self and your highest good.
This is a partnership, not an opportunity to enslave another person for your personal gain. Any imbalance of power in the relationship should feel disquieting and not a source of ego gratification
Once you’ve cleared away the limiting thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and patterns you’ll be successfully able to do the work of finding the perfect partner. But just as finding your own Divine alignment was paramount to your well-being so is being in alignment with the idea of your partner as a complement and not as a source of competition. The perfect partner will be your match in some areas, your opposite in others, strong in ways you are not, and in need of support in areas in which you excel. Your perfect partner will not be dependent upon you or be unable to continue if the relationship fails. This is a partnership, not an opportunity to enslave another person for your personal gain. Any imbalance of power in the relationship should feel disquieting and not be a source of ego gratification. When you seek a relationship to dominate or be dominated you’re not in a healthy relationship.
It’s understandable that you’d crave a relationship when you’re lonely but if you don’t first cultivate a relationship with yourself you’ll find yourself feeling even more lonely within a relationship than you did without one
Therefore, let’s look at the elements of a healthy relationship, which is a relationship formed by two partners of equal value. Just as two wrongs cannot make a right, two weak individuals cannot create a strong relationship. We advise that you first do the work of clearing and healing your energetic space of past baggage so you can be strong and then seek a partner of equal strength. If you try to find your perfect partner when you’re lonely, lost, or confused you’ll most likely find yourself drawn to others that are experiencing those same conditions. Another person who is lonely will feel comforting and familiar but your relationship with them will reflect the loneliness you both feel. You’ll end up looking at what’s wrong with yourself instead of what’s right. It’s understandable that you’d crave a relationship when you’re lonely but if you don’t first cultivate a relationship with yourself you’ll find yourself feeling even more lonely within a relationship than you did without one.
Allow yourself to be motivated to become even more by honoring yourself. When you acknowledge all that you are, you’ll automatically encourage yourself to expand even further
This means that you must discover who you are. However don’t begin the discovery process with criticism, instead, begin with love and acceptance. What do you possess as a characteristic that you find valuable? It can be anything that you like about yourself. Things like intelligence, honesty, integrity, loyalty, kindness, compassion, humor, temperament, and interests are examples of things to consider.
Once you know who you are and what you have to offer don’t spend time looking at the ways in which you’re lacking. Instead, take all of your strengths and celebrate all that you are.
Be inspired by the many wonderful qualities you hold. Allow yourself to be motivated to become even more by honoring yourself. When you acknowledge all that you are, you’ll automatically encourage yourself to expand even further. Growth will become a pleasant pursuit instead of a dreaded punishment.
This information, not your actions or words, will work its way out into the universal energetic field occupied by all and it will in turn draw to you other people who are celebrating their own strengths
Once you’re aware of and showcasing your strengths in your daily life, you’ll be filling your energetic field with positive information about yourself. This information, not your actions or words, will work its way out into the universal energetic field occupied by all and it will in turn draw to you other people who are celebrating their own strengths. When two positive people align they have the ability to form a perfect partnership. Two strong people can operate independently. Two positive people want to build each other up. Two empowered people want to join together for good.
Once you see and celebrate all that you are, you’ll create a powerful, positive, loving, and magnetic attraction force field around yourself
There’s nothing wrong with being single but if you’re looking for the perfect partnership you won’t find it until you commit to loving and accepting yourself. Once you see and celebrate all that you are, you’ll create a powerful, positive, loving, and magnetic attraction force field around yourself. When you’re sending love into the universe, love will be returned to you and you’ll find your perfect partner with ease.
