I‘ve been too hasty to give advice in the past. Sometimes we can believe we have it all figured out and we know best before we’ve really understood the context. Stephen Covey had it right when he said ‘seek first to understand, then be understood.’ I now practice the habit of more attentive listening. I do so relentlessly in all my interactions. It’s been a real game-changer in all aspects of life.
With the patience to hold back, and invite the person you are interacting with to arrive at their own solution it unearths so many new insights and discoveries. It builds confidence and resilience.
The silence in conversations can be uncomfortable, which is why we often rush to fill the empty void with words.
This can close off so many powerful learning opportunities which enable people to feel great about finding a solution themselves. I think we should learn to embrace the power of the silent pause in conversations, as that is often where the learning really takes place. It is not about one person empowering another, this defeats the whole point. It is about people empowering themselves.
I’d love to hear what people think?