“You care too much.”
What exactly does that mean? I ask myself that each time someone says it to me or about me. My logical mind asks, what is it that they see that has made them come to the conclusion that I am caring excessively. Is it the sadness they see when I see others being treated poorly, and I am unable to ease their pain? Is it the anger they see when injustices of the world continue to go unchecked? Is it the withdrawal from those that surround me because it has all become too much to bear?
I ask because the statement seems to be more about the person who speaks it than the one that they are speaking about. I ponder that perhaps they do not care enough, and if they did, those things that are affecting me would not be the burden of those of us that do care. I ponder the fact that arguments and disagreements stem from caring about something; otherwise, why argue? I consider those that believe in something so strongly that they are willing to fight, sometimes to the other person’s death, is perhaps caring too much about that specific something.
So when I retreat or am sad because of the current state of the human condition, I’m not sure it should be classified that I care too much.
We all show our feelings in different ways. We are all sensitive to others. Perhaps my sadness is my way of expressing the disappointment of what I see as the steady decline of general human decency.
I could argue the name-calling and general disregard for those that are not exactly like you is caring too much too. It’s just that your caring brings on pain to others where mine remains internal. If my caring too much is of a bother to you, perhaps you should stop being cruel to others. Perhaps you should begin to look inward as to what you are doing that is bringing pain to many. The name-calling and “US” and “THEM” speak needs to end. WE need to pull together and realize that we all care in some way. For those that do not care, they might want to give it a try and assess if their behavior is hurting those that surround them. Are they making life better for all, or have they only considered those that they do not ridicule?
So yes, when someone says I care too much, my response will be thank you. It shows I am a sensitive person that cares about others. If we really believe that is a problem, perhaps we need to start asking ourselves why. We need to assess actions and reactions. If people are treated fairly and respectfully, maybe the wave of caring too much would be celebrated.
Those that are isolating themselves will again emerge to bring beauty to a world that has become a bit too black and white for this artist’s taste.