How Do You Bring Out The Best In People?

If you want to bring out the best in people and feel like you’re getting nowhere. Stop teaching. Ask them to show you. You might learn how to coach them.

~ Maria Lehtman

In today’s world, people are too busy to think about the world on the other side of the screen. We are far from being on the same level of digital confidence. We have demographic differences, varying digital generations, changing circumstances, cultural diversity etc. The varying skills levels are perfectly alright as long as people are willing to learn. A recent experience showed me once again how important it is to step into another person’s shoes.

One day a peer of mine had been calling several people to understand how to use a social media tool. I called the first person in who had been in the dialogue and received a frustrated “We’re just running around in circles, I already did that.” – response. I simply said, “You presented, you did not do coaching. You never knew what the other person’s screen looked like. You were looking at a different view altogether.” A quick response came back saying: “Right, I should have been more patient.”

The key phrase I always repeat, especially to the extremely digitally adept and native generations, is ‘Be patient’. We are working across very different skillsets but we can all learn from each other. It does not make us the best teachers if we reach the finish line first. It just makes us quick distributors.

Take your audience into account – the digital world is quick but only as quick as its users. Being the best is not the same as being the most effective, or being the trusted leader who takes others with them to the common goal and success.

Maria Lehtman
Maria Lehtman
MARIA has over 20 years of Sales, Marketing, and Professional Services experience from the international telecommunications and travel industry. Her achievements include successful global Transition, Transformation and Competency programs in management roles at global telecommunication field. She is currently working in International Sales & Marketing department with transversal employee and executive social media engagement development programs. Maria is passionate about the digital empowerment and the opportunities it can provide for people around the world. She is a dedicated photographer and digital artist engaged in several creative projects at any given time. She is a compassionate leader, and her mission is to support people in self-transformation and in embracing new skills. Her trademark is her capability to share a smile even during the most challenging ccircumstances and keep a 'mindfulness'-attitude. Maria’s posts and thoughts represent her own view of the world. See Maria's current publication on Maria is a contributing author to the inspiring book Chaos to Clarity: Sacred Stories of Transformational Change.


  1. Trust me on the “…very different skill sets…” part, Maria! I often say that we’re all smart, but just in different ways.

    For me the digital world is full of issues just waiting to trip me up. I have had to be patient with myself, and I bless those who can be that way with me.

    • I hear you – thank you, Susan! For reading and taking the time to comment! It has been the greatest lesson working with all the continents in the world. I’d never change this opportunity for another, no matter how tough the learning curve was at the start of it. People can always surprise you. And sometimes you also surprise yourself. It’s a journey.



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