Relationships and results don’t happen in a vacuum.
This reminds me so much of a dinner a few years back. My husband and I had dinner plans with a client who had become a dear friend. This was a person we both cared about a great deal and were looking forward to seeing. Earlier that day I had run into another friend at a social gathering and ended up inviting her to join us for dinner, thinking that our two friends would benefit from knowing one another.
I so regret doing that.
During dinner, my social-gathering-friend spent the entire time texting someone who was clearly more entertaining than we were, and didn’t show the least bit of interest in anyone else at the table. I was embarrassed, a bit angry, and frustrated with myself for inviting her. These two people had a lot in common and it could have been a mutually beneficial relationship. But of course, because of her behavior, there was no relationship at all.
When we’re not present and aware of how others experience us, we pay a price that goes far beyond cell phone etiquette.
That will be the last time I introduce my social-gathering-friend to people in my community.
How do others feel in your presence? Do they feel valued and seen? Do they know they matter? If not, beware. You may not mean to be “rude” or dismissive. You may simply be doing your own thing. But how you show up matters.
People don’t forget.