How Clearly Are You Seeing?

At this time of year, many people get clear on what their word of the year is or spend time reflecting on the previous year and setting a vision for the next year. Interestingly I had lunch recently with a colleague who sets up her year in August of the previous year. That said this is not an article about the merits of having a vision or when to set it, in fact, it goes deeper than that to question the very essence of what vision is.

In a course in miracles a book that was channelled by a woman whose name was only revealed on her death, one of the key ideas is that In no situation that arises do you realise the outcome that would make you happy. Therefore, you have no guide to appropriate action and no way of judging the result.

This idea can bring up a lot of resistance for many because as one of my clients calls it your Shego/hego wants to be in control of everything that happens so it will fight tooth and nail to retain that.  To help clients understand these ideas I encourage them to work with the following mantra I do not perceive my own best interests for at least a day.

Why does that mantra work?

I found that particular mantra very freeing, perhaps because from where I am at and what I have experienced, it made so much sense.  Think of it this way the conditioned self has been taught that it is each person for themselves and that you have to go into every situation considering either what’s in it for me or how I can I get the best outcome for me?

If you strip that attitude back to the underlying emotion that’s driving that way of being, it is fear.  And what can make this more complex is that sometimes this fear is masked by anger. Let’s explore fear for a moment. It could be fear of missing out; fear of being ripped off and so on.  When we examine that fear we see what lies beneath. It may be that you feel completely alone and feel the need to protect yourself for example. Now let’s dig deeper to see what lies underneath that. Fundamentally what we see is lack: this can show up as I haven’t got enough: or that I am not enough.  If we are all aspects of the Divine then how can that idea be true?

At its simplest when in that place we are not seeing clearly; and all destructive emotions are merely mental projections based on interpretations that come from deeply held and unquestioned beliefs.  How do we shift this?  I am an adherent of these words from a very wise soul:

In the end, the reason we study is to be able to tackle and reduce our destructive emotions.

~ dalai lama

This year more than ever as a seven-year, you are encouraged to become more reflective and put space in your diary to create that.  What has helped me is to cultivate a daily practice that includes:

  1. 10-20 mins of qi gong to clear any trapped chi (energy);
  2. reflection on my emotional and mental state using prompts;
  3. reading spiritual books and reflecting on their message and what it means for me

Notice the importance of working with the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Which of these pathways comes most easily for you?

The power of thought

It is your thoughts that affect your sense of emotional well-being and can impact on your effectiveness in life.  Remember there are no neutral thoughts.

Every thought you have can bring you pain or delight.  And the more we are stuck in that level of reality the more challenging life can become because it can feel overwhelming.

Every day the Dalai Lama follows a daily practice that consists of cultivating bodhicitta, a sense of altruism rooted in compassion. You could work with the following verse to cultivate yours if it resonates:

For as long as space endures
And for as long as living beings remain
Until then may I too abide
To dispel the misery of the world.

Why make time for a daily practice when life is so busy?  


Kate Griffiths
Kate Griffiths
Some call me the coaches' coach. I work with visionary leaders doing world work who are really good at what they do but haven't found their sweet spot yet. I help them unlock their whole selves by learning to build their intuitive muscle and so create more meaning. Ultimately this enables them to move into expanded awareness and the realms of higher consciousness. This is deep work because it requires you to embrace your shadow so you can discover the gold that is hiding there. You have both masculine and feminine energies within you but somewhere along the way you learnt to rely more on one more than the other making you either more of a "prover" or a "pleaser" Working with me you learn to access both energies so you can increase your presence and enjoy greater influence and visibility. Since 2008 I have pioneered an approach that integrates spirituality and business using Colour by blending the esoteric and the practical. I have found that it can transform every aspect of your life and enable you to develop the tools you need to ride the waves of adversity, you will experience in life. If you want to understand how colour can help then why not read my book Colourful Boardrooms. At the very least it will help you discover what type of leader you are. In 2018 I realised that I wanted to help change the story for the leaders of tomorrow so I set up Colourful Classrooms, a social enterprise, and have gone into schools and communities with programmes to support teachers, parents, and students to have better emotional health and wellbeing by building their awareness around what makes them feel more resilient. In terms of where I hang out:I tend to hang out on LinkedIn, so do connect with me there if you want to continue the conversation. And at the moment I am trialling a new social media platform MeWe which has the feel of the "village green" and to show my support for the stop hate campaign. If you like videos then do subscribe to my YouTube channel.

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  1. Ali your constant care and attention to the work and ideas of others is what defines you my friend that’s for sure. Keep on being you.

    I am not sure that humans can do the buffering because we are perfectly imperfect. That is why we need to connect to the truth as this reality is merely and dream. When we do that then the Divine can work through us….

  2. This I have not thought of, Kate
    “It is your thoughts that affect your sense of emotional well-being and can impact on your effectiveness in life. Remember there are no neutral thoughts.”
    I mean there are no neutral thoughts.
    This is a powerful statement because our thoughts end up to shape our habits and identity. No buffering thoughts and either acidic or alkaline.
    Maybe humans need to do the buffering.