Stories help you make sense of your life — but when these narratives are incomplete or misleading, they can keep you stuck instead of providing clarity. In an actionable talk, psychotherapist and advice columnist Lori Gottlieb shows how to break free from the stories you’ve been telling yourself by becoming your own editor and rewriting your narrative from a different point of view.
How Changing Your Story Can Change Your Life
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Each of us has a vision of and of himself. The vision about us means having a strategy of being (someone) and doing (something). A project that does not live only in our mind but is realized thanks to constant, almost daily work. The “vision” is never definitive but requires constant adjustments. Both because we realize that a given action that we had not thought of can be more effective than another but also because, by living and experiencing, we may need to better define the goals we set ourselves. But it is not enough to have in mind what we set for ourselves, a more or less precise idea of what we want to be and achieve. Of course, it is useful but not decisive. Thought needs to find an expressive way to be visible. Language is the first way through which we express our thinking. Writing is the instrument with which we give concrete form to it, we make it visible. Writing our vision means SEEING it and then giving it the first visibility it needs: a form. The mind reads this form and begins to imprint it in that part which we call the subconscious. Furthermore, writing we can reread and act on words by providing direction to the mind and energy that moves our actions. Writing the vision must be done in detail, in areas of our life, so as to outline all the actions we intend to take to put it into practice.
Our story and life are ever changing. It is the cycle of life.